I feel like I have to post in this thread!
I totally understand people who says "I cyber only through messenger cause i do prefer to do it live"
I was like that too some years ago.
Now that my real life schedule changed, i cant stay for hours in front of a pc.
I mean, i work like 10-12 hours a day,if i spend three or four hours for matches in messenger,then i wouldn't have time to sleep lol
So I do email matches mostly,sometimes poll fights too.
Though time to time I do like to do quickies, sometime erotic,sometime sort of pro style wrestling backstage scenes.
They can be a lot of fun, the risk is that you have too much fun and have to leave before the end anyway!
A option can be also Second Life matches.
They are usually quicker than messenger matches cause you dont have to describe the position as you see them with the avatars.
I dont use it anymore, but it was quite fun and i think that now may be even better.