Over the course of my time in and around the fight community I’ve listened to the laments of many males over the fact that their wife or girlfriend wants no part of this.
First you need to accept this general fact and adjust your expectations accordingly: this isn’t for everyone.
“This”, in my case at least, is a blend of wrestling and rules catfighting. A style - if such it can be called - that has evolved over time with me as I have no formal training.
While it is true that female combat in it’s various forms is more common today that it was just a few years ago, the reality is most women are not ready to jump on the mats and get down to it.
There are some foundational things that must be in place or, in my opinion, you’re wasting your time.
1. The relationship better be rock solid. Think about what you’re asking her to do. Don’t think any more needs to be said here.
2. She has to be, to a large degree, self-confident. Now there are exceptions - different strokes different folks and all - but most of these type things involve the combatants to be out there in minimal clothing. I remember my first time standing on my end of the mats not wearing a whole lot. Most of us are going to feel pretty self conscious. Personally I don’t know any woman who does this who doesn’t think she’s the shit.
This is not to imply that she has to look like an underwear model - I don’t - but she has to have a baseline level of confidence in herself and her appearance.
3. Competitive. She has to have a genuine competitive streak or don’t even bother. Not all women, or people in general, really possess this.
Never been in a spontaneous fight in my life, but I am very competitive.
I was on the swim team and played volleyball in high school. A volleyball scholarship partly paid for my college education.
I’m not the prettiest or sexiest bitch on here by far, but I assure you I’m as competitive as anyone, and more so than most.
Here is another mistake men commonly make. This I know because many of you have told me your stories, and that is once she appears at least open to the idea you can’t shut up about it.
If she is into you she wants to please you. However, don’t make her drink from a firehose. Don’t immediately start inundating her with catfight videos, and bringing it up in every conversation. That’s going to move the switch to OFF real fast. Trust me on this.
Baby steps. Bite-size portions.
You guys hear those magic words; she appears receptive and you think all your dreams have come true, so you back up the emotional dump trunk. Control yourself. If you can’t use some discipline the interest won’t last.
More women are open to things like this than ever. Women competing with each other physically is not the near-foreign concept it once was, but if you plan on introducing this to your lady it needs to be done right.
The approach is everything.
