1975 was a very different world from 2025 in many ways.
One of the most important was the way separated women, especially separated mom's, were treated. The shunning was very intense, almost to the point of total exclusion from polite society. (I suppose that there's another difference right there: pre-internet, there was such a thing as polite society. But that's a topic for another time.)
My mom's separation from my dad was a very difficult time for her, and she was trying desperately to roll back the clock--to win my dad back. She was contesting his motions for divorce every step of the way, and trying to find out who the other woman was. In 1975, dad's didn't leave unless there was another woman.
The other woman....my mom's rival....was named Bonnie. She was a client at my dad's job. Bonnie hated her job....and, working at all for that matter.... and saw my dad as her ticket to housewife-dom.
She did up her hair like my mom's--big, curly, tinted auburn....and began seducing him. She had been working on this since 1971, and in 1973 got my dad to move with her.
But my mom wasn't going down without a fight. Literally and figuratively.
Bonnie lived on Long Island. Enough of a distance where she could duck my mom's challenges of a woman-to-woman showdown. (This was 1975--gasoline was very very expensive.)
But my mom was persistent. She kept throwing sand in the gears of the divorce proceedings.
And then Bonnie got laid off from her job. And her savings started to run out.
She was living off of unemployment. But that was about to run out too. Something had to give.
Bonnie agreed to fight my mom. But not a catfight. A no-rules boxing match.
My mom started training for her fight. With Mary Ellen's mom. They had been training for a couple of weeks.
Mary Ellen's mom filled me in that's where my mom had been Wednesday afternoons.
> Ummm .... when's the fight?
> Wednesday before Thanksgiving. At my place. You dad is driving Bonnie up.
> ......
> You're being quiet.
> It's.... a lot.
> But Monique, sweetie....didn't you just do the same thing? Fought for a man?
> Yes....and.....that was a lot.
> I suppose it is.
> Can my mom .... fight? Is she good at it.
> We'll find out, won't we?
To be continued....