In a restaurant, on the sidewalk, in a store or anywhere I sometimes see another woman who looks fit or, usually, tough, and I find myself wondering: 'Could I take her?'. It is interesting, intriguing, and fun, for me to do this, and usually is followed by thinking of the possibility of telling the person about my interests and asking if she would like to go someplace public and talk about it for a bit. For me, anyway, there is not fantasy scenario in mind of 'what would happen if I did'...just evaluating her as a potential opponent.
Yeah, did it one time, and the person let me know with a look that I was less than safe and sane and moved away without further answer. But that was one individual, if done with several people someone would say yes.
My question, however, is whether guys know we do this, and how widespread is it. I have asked two friends and they both said they do it...see the random stranger and wonder, but those people were already people who wrestled in one case, did judo in the other. I doubt many 'civilians' would do it.
Also, do guys do this? my guess is not. I don't know why I feel they wouldn't.
Also let me say this is not about me looking around in crowds for some stranger who looks like they would be good grappling or in any sort of contest- just seeing a person by happenstance who seems to fit and be in your range (or for me a bit beyond me) and wondering.