This is what I like to call an onion or lasagna topic, multiple layers with one complex taste. Just as our approach to fighting is different (among them women doing it), we guys can be a Glados too when it comes to the cake we want to have but eat it too.
It's vital that women have the freedom to choose for themselves, just as well the understanding a rejection does equal to a judgment on a person. An openness about female combat (from a psychological standpoint) has to reflect what you like about it, that is if one is willing to admit early to being attracted to it. Let's not kid ourselves, whisper networks don't exist for harassment only, you might meet a gal who has heard about your kink way before she heard about you, and being superficial is not gender specific. In a certain sense, at least compared to vanilla, sexual attraction to female combat is as a sexual minority as being LGBTQ, and can act as a deterrent. It wouldn't be surprising that some tune out at "Would it bother you if I watch you and your girlfriend tear each other's hair out for my pleasure?" for it being a variation on either being forced into submission or being objectified or simply hurled into harm's way.
Personally I took my time before coming out, so to say, waiting for the moment when a woman was trusting enough to show herself vulnerable in front of an other human being, and fortunately I was never wrong that it'd be a lasting partnership (were it not for my youthful egotism to ruin it in other ways). On the second subject, if I had a girlfriend with her situation needing to rely on a pump, at most I'd only encourage arm wrestling.
