I agree with Jessi. I have wrestled with quite a few muscle babes. As well as well as with wen who have less muscle mass. There is more to fighting than just strength, it is knowledge, agility and flexibility. You can try to plan ahead, but as the saying goes, all plans are laid to rest after the first lock-up.
And of course, this is all semi competitive, so while it is a blast to put her into a lotus lock, it is about spending time with your partner than winning or losing in IRL or cyber.