I once got into an argument with a girl at the gym. It wasn't like we were fighting, just arguing in a heated voice. Then one of the men we knew there suggested we settle the dispute with a wrestling match. He, as they say, challenged us. I understood that this was manipulation on his part, but I didn’t want to back down. The other girl wasn't going to back down either. So we went onto the mat and started wrestling, and the men sat around and enjoyed the spectacle. It wasn't a fight, we respected each other, it was a fair grappling match. But it was the man who pushed us into it. He took advantage of the situation, saw that we were heated up by the argument, and added fuel to the fire.
Hi Olga,
I understand the predicament you found yourself in. But may I suggest a possible alternative course of action that might have with hindsight been a good idea? So Olga imagine it was you and me at the gym that day, we’ve heard the offer and I said this:
“Or alternatively Olga we could go back to my place, finish our conversation and settle things in private…anyway you like!”
Yes, I’m doubling down. I’m trying to increase the pressure of the situation to a point where the other woman finds her courage lacking and walks away. Which would totally be a victory for me 
Now at a guess Olga, I suspect you might of said something like:
“Sounds good Kate! Shall we say 3:00pm?”
Yeah I don’t think you would have backed down, which totally suits me. Between us we’ve now taken the men out of the equation and regained control of the situation. This is a huge plus, the negative is however we’re probably going to do a lot more than wrestle. It’s possible that in the hours proceeding we can take some heat out of our situation. But I imagine we would both find this hard to do, some would see deescalation as a strength, others a weakness. My pride has gotten me into trouble over the years and I suspect it would here, so if things were to deescalate Olga. It would definitely be on you to extend the first olive branch and *Giggle* something tells me you’re not the olive branch extending kind?
So I started off by saying this is a good idea and I believe it is, as depending on the other woman you can raise the stakes to a point where she walks away. If she don’t you’ve regained control of the situation and depending on the personalities involved, a peaceful resolution is absolutely possible…I just don’t genuinely believe that would of been the case between myself and Olga.
Now…watch Olga reply and disagree with my assessment of her 
Xoxo
Kate
The situation would be complicated. Kate, if you look like the photo in your profile gallery, then I'm taller, heavier, and, I'd guess, stronger than you. Would you challenge me if your physical attributes weren't in your favor? Let's pretend you and I have the same parameters. But I think you're too hasty in removing the man from the equation. He could have said (and most likely would have said), "Hey, Kate, are you chickening out? Why wait, let's sort this out right now." It often happens that we become hostages of the situation. Let me give you an example. A good friend of mine, a very sarcastic person, got into an argument at a bar with her friend, a real bitch like her. But they weren't planning on fighting, it was just an exchange of barbs.Their altercation attracted the attention of other bar patrons. The girls began to be actively encouraged, and each formed a support group.
I should mention here that the bar belonged to a former crime boss. He retired and focused on legitimate business, but the bar still had a boxing ring and hosted boxing and kickboxing matches on weekends.
So, two girls were calling each other names, escalating the conversation. You know how it goes. Slut, bitch, prostitute, and various other intimate details. It got to the point where one of them threatened to punch the other. The response she got was, "Try it, bitch." Then someone from the crowd suggested that they put on gloves and go into the ring. And then everyone went wild; the idea seemed brilliant to everyone except the girls themselves, but no one asked them. They were helped into the gloves and literally pushed into the ring. When the girls found themselves face to face in the ring, their desire to fight vanished. In fact, they both panicked, wanting to leave, wanting it all to stop. But their pride wouldn't let them. Besides, the crowd was roaring and demanding they get started. They were lucky: as they stood hesitantly facing each other in the ring, the bar owner appeared. He asked what the hell was going on. Then my friend turned to him and said they were being forced to fight. He got angry, told everyone to leave, and treated the girls to drinks on the house. They were just lucky the bar owner showed up just in time. If not, they probably would have had to start a fight, even though they didn't want to.
Now it's me and Kate again. Maybe her suggestion to meet later would have worked. Although it's hard to say. When I'm angry, I don't think clearly. In addition, there were witnesses in the room who could confirm that we fought fairly and, in addition, there would not have been a situation where I would say that I won, and Kate would start saying that she won. We could turn this all into a joke, yes, that's probably possible. But here, personality traits and the reason for the dispute come into play. The ideal option would be if Sasha or Ruslana showed up and said, "Girls, what are you doing? Maybe we should go get some coffee?"
But seriously, I don't know what I would have done. It really depends on the circumstances. Maybe I would have agreed and said, "Okay, see you later," or maybe I would have pushed you and demanded that we start a fight right now. I really don't know.
