[aniani]

You should do it. But I something goes wrong then, someone trusted should present there, if case of they can stop u both!

[aniani]

Please settle the issue like the jerry sphinger way or jous censura style....

[JT Edson]

wendy, sounds like you have already won and are still winning everytime you are in bed with Rick, keep playing the fantasy role with him, tease him about Lori now and then, you know it drives him wild, tell him things that you would do to her in a fight and you have him as putty in your hands literally lol

if lori ever needs to know anything she just needs to know how you use her to spice up your marriage, that thought will be enough to drive a dagger through her, you know you should never fight her irl but you don't need to in order to win, mindgames are enough... just stop mentioning her for a few days and wait for rick to bring her up, then you know you have total control of how the fantasy is developing with Rick.

thanks for sharing x

Well said.

[Frankietheone]

Do you have a picture of your hubby's ex?
-F

[uknorthmale]

My feeling Wendy is that fighting Lori is probably not a good idea.If youve no experience of fighting and she is how you describe then being honest you likely to get badly hurt.Even if you won youd be in pain.If you decide you want to go ahead have at least 2 people who can stop it should it get out of hand,and i mean people who can physically get you apart not wave their arms about screaming at you to stop.

My wife,whos a nurse has had a few catfights had a pre arranged catfight with another nurse where we live.Myself and the other nurses girlfriend were here to stop it if we had to(in fact the 2 of us had discussed how we would stop it).I got to admit i was turned on by it,but was a bit nervous as my wife had a 3 stone(45lbs) weight disadvantage,but i wanted them to fight here so they didnt go somewhere else to settle it with no one to stop them and one or both of them(for i had no quarrel with other nurse......was a work thing) get hurt.Thankfully they really only stuck to hairpulling,lasted 6 or 7 minutes,the odd thump but no one got really hurt and the other nurse gave up, and my wife and her are reasonably friendly these days

If you do decide you really want to fight her then get some training,even if it only wrestling or boxing.As for being intimidated cos shes black thats what they rely on in many cases,like whites some are very tough and some definetely arent.People from Glasgow over here in the UK do the same thing,though even if theyre weak chances are theyve got something to slash at you with.Just put the whole black thing out of your head,else you beat before you start.

good luck and hope your husband loves you wahtever you decide...........or the result is xx

[dfoulup]

This is real life so try not to be stupid.  Fighting is never the way to solve things.  Why are you & hubby even communicating with this woman?  Are there children involved?  What about aliimony?  You may have to put up with this woman for a long time.  You want to end up injured or spending some quality time in jail?  In some states the cops just arrest everyone in an altercation.  You want a felony conviction on your record? 

Use your head & don't fight.  If you want to wrestle another woman for your hubby find a pro.  Someone who knows what they are doing and can teach you and turn him on at the same time.  Then maybe you can go on to some woman down the street but again with rules, safewords and all the rest.  Wrestling or catfighting for fun is one thing; for real it wouldn't be a pretty situation. 

[susanfighter]

I was in a similar situation and arranged to fight my hubby's ex.  If was a terrible experience and I would not recommend it to you.

[Lauren]

here is my 2 cents worth.   If you decide you want to fight or wrestle someone irl,  and the most important word  is WANT, not need or get pushed into,   start slow and easy. Find someone who you can match with and still be able to walk away at the end without having to hide bruises, marks etc.   This ex wife will always be there if the times come you really  WANT  to fight her.   The longer you make someone wait, the more upset they get, this does not make them a better fighter it makes them more prone to mistakes, they jump in  wildly and make more mistakes, anger instead of  technical ability takes over and they dont think.  Advantage their opponent. Remember you are better than her in every way,  do what you want, when you want, not when she wants.

[Boche]

Stay clear my dear!  There is a big difference from an arranged catfight with rules between women in a safe environment who just want to meet for a bit of competition, but to fight someone with no rules because they simply want to settle a score, that is an entirely different matter.  And you have never had a fight before!  That is a setup for disaster.  Your husband should be putting his foot down if he loves you. 

Very nicely said

[MsMolly]

in my opinion, you should leave this alone.  there's no reason to try and prove anything.  the fact that you have the man, i believe, is proof enough.  you are already the better woman.