Sinclairfan, I agree that the catfight vids, especially between younger girls, show both girls to be reluctant.
That's why I like to see the girls' friends give them a shove towards one another. Usually when the girls are thrown together, they really start to fight it out.
I also agree that both girls/women have to be willing to fight. I don't like bullying, and if one girl doesn't want to fight, the other girl should leave her alone.