2011 FIGHT WITH DAWN
Dawn and I didn't talk or text much leading up to our 2011 fight. I thought we might text each other selfies of each others' pussies and bushes, much like we had texted each other pictures of our breasts leading up to our 2007 fight. But for reasons I couldn't put my finger on, I would hesitate everytime I tried to hit "Send" on any of my texts. I send one picture on my own, thin, trimmed bush, and received one from Dawn--hers was also thin with hair and with just regular-sized lips. Neither of us had had C-sections in delivering our daughters, I noticed. Was that a weird thing to notice, I wondered. In breasts, I knew how I wanted mine to compare with Dawn's: I wanted bigger nipples, and more definition in the borders versus the skin of my chest. On our pussies and bush, I guess I wanted a thicker, fuller bush than Dawn, but both of us were surprising.....not.....very hairy...down there. Was I disappointed in myself? in her? Is that why we stopped after one selfie?
One secret, which we never discussed with each other, in Dawn and I being able to continue to fight each other, was that none of our fights ever ended with a decisive "winner" or "loser". Even in our backyard fistfight, where I had knocked Dawn to the ground, Dawn had continued to fight from her back, kicking my hard in the legs and crotch with her boots. So none of us ever entered the next fight seeking revenge or trying to even the score--it was just about the thrill of the fight. What if someday the thrill itself wasn't enough? What if someday it was just Dawn and me.....fighting.....until one of us won and one of us lost. Would the winner want to fight in 2015? Would the loser? What if we stopped talking, like after our 2007 fight, except this time neither of us reached out?
I began contemplating my life without Dawn in it. After a seemingly endless childhood, my daughters were growing up fast, my oldest finishing her freshman year at Framingham South and already taller than me. I remember noticing that my girls seemed to both be prettier than Dawn's two girls, but that also feeling like a taboo topic to discuss. Dawn and I trusted each other that I wouldn't ruin her marriage, and were open about our YouTube girlfight addiction, and with each others' physical safety, but still had "no-go" zones we instinctively avoided. It was like knowing each others' vulnerabilities and weaknesses was enough; we had no desire to exploit them. Dawn's was her wallflower daughters; mine was my ex-husband's marriage to Karen.
Karen had lost face with me when David and her had had to abandon their dream home in 2008-2009. They tried to keep up appearances for as long as they could, but when their car leases rolled over in 2010 and they couldn't qualify for a new loan and turned in their new Infiniti SUV (Karen--oh, how she loved looking down, literally, on everyone from high up in her SUV seat) and Acura (David) for used (oh, excuse me, certified pre-owned) Volvo's, the financial strain on their lives became harder to hide. I remember delighting in watching the sanctimonious Karen lecturing me, when I had first met her, on all the virtues of leasing cars versus buying. I threw that one in her face in 2011 when she and I had our first genuinely bitter argument over groundrules for my, our, oldest daughter dating. I remember being alone in the kitchen of my parents' house with Karen, our argument gradually escalating, the realization gradually dawning (pun not intended, but apt) on me that if things got physical right now between us, there would be no one to break us up. We eventually cooled it, but for the first time I started wondering: was it true? if I stayed single, would Karen and I eventually fight? Was I subconsciously staying single to bait Karen, to have that source of tension in my life? Did that irritate Karen? Did it irritate the still-happily-married Dawn?
If I lost Dawn as an "outlet", as an escape, which way would my life go. Would I needle, needle, needle Karen until we fought over David? Or would I finally date a man and remarry? Which did I want? Either? Neither? Did I just want to keep fighting Dawn?
In July 2011, my daughters were away at different sports camps, and Dawn drove up from Connecticut and stayed at her mom's. We met in Dawn's bedroom one night and met in 2-piece lingerie we had agreed on, but with disappointly less pre-planning than our prior fights. We immediately removed the bottoms, but left the tops on. Our 2007 breast mauling fight had also been in bed, and we had spent most of that one laying side-by-side facing each other. We attempted the same position for this fight, but quickly realized it was difficult to "get at" each other. (And, believe me, we were both frisky and ready to begin the serious scratching.)
By trial and error, we knelt on the bed, faced each other, and found the optimal spacing and leaning position, and the optimal separation of our knees, and the optimal hair-grabbing position of our left hands, to give our right hands optimal unfettered access to scratch each others' pussies. It was awkward as hell, my 42 year old body not as flexible as it used to be. But we looked at each other, realizing we had found the best position for the style of fight we were both craving.
There followed a surprisingly tense few minutes of....nothing....well, not nothing. We were both ready, our hands....our fingers....our nails....flush on each others' moist-but-not soaked pussies. We were each waiting for the other to make the first move. Well, not the first move....we were both already probing the other for the most vulnerable spot to strike. We were, I think, daring the other to lob an insult, to bait the other. My mind kept flashing back to my heated verbal argument in the kitchen that day with Karen. Should Dawn and I start arguing before we fight? While we fight? Will that enhance the excitement of the fight? Or would a fake argument break the mood? Why not just fight?
Our foreheads, already closed, touched. Our right arms were pointed downwards, leaving our right shoulders bare to each others' faces, and I could smell Dawn's freshly-showered neck, as I assume she could smell mine. With our right hands still aggressively pressed against each others' pussies, we began aggressively kissing each others' right shoulder, neck, and collarbone.
I had never kissed Dawn before, and we had never talked about it. I had kissed other women maybe three or four times during my Fitchburg State sleeping-around-slut phase, but more just "going along" in the moment, and never really enjoying it. Is that what I was doing now? just going with the flow because Dawn had started it? Or did I want this, did I enjoy this?
I kept waiting for our kissing to become mouth on mouth, for Dawn to back her head up and move her mouth to mine. I didn't want that enough to make the first move myself, but wouldn't have resisted if she had done it to me.
But she didn't. Why wasn't she kissing me on the mouth? Was she wondering why I wasn't kissing her on the mouth?
Who the fuck has a first kiss after 24 years and doesn't do it on the mouth?
I thought back to my verbal fight with Karen, when I lashed out at her over her broken finances and downsizing her car, knowing it would hurt her. I paused in kissing Dawn's shoulders and I came up with the only thing I could think to say to hurt her.
> My older daughter is prettier than yours.
Dawn replied instantly.
> She's not, and mine can kick the shit out of yours in a fight.
Our pussies were no longer just moderately wet; they were actually dripping down in inner thighs, and in so doing were echoing the menacing words our mouths had just exchanged.
Just as, for 3 years from 2007 to 2010, Dawn and I had rarely spoken, but reconnected only to find that we were both pursuing a YouTube girlfight addiction, so, now, we broke an extended silence only to find our minds were again on the same wavelength.
We had both noticed our daughters were growing up.
And, in our minds, we were pairing them off.
The juvenile shoulder-and-neck kissing we had been engaged in suddenly seemed insufficient for the moment.
We resumed our separated crouch. We looked in each others' eyes in anger.
And out hands went from tentative pressing to full-on, vicious digging. The curiosity of what it would feel like to have a pussy scratched and clawed by a determined adversary disappeared in an instant; spoiler alert--it hurts. And it makes you angry. Angry enough to scratch and claw back five times harder.
Dawn and I continued on the bed, in the same crouching position, digging harder with our right hand, while holding each other close with our left, knowing retreat was useless as it would not be allowed. We experimented with different tactics, seeing if pinching or pulling or scratching was more effective, more painful. Seeing which was worse--working a single spot for a prolonged period, or spreading the pain. They were all painful to receive, just in different ways, I decided.
I also decided I was glad I hadn't kissed Dawn on the lips. We had bared everything to each other over the years--I was glad we would always have at least that one layer of separation between us. That was something to prize and to keep as much as our friendship was.
I'd love to be able to tell you that we were adrenaline-fueled superwomen that night, that our competitive juices pushed us into a four hour scratching marathon that left us shredded and satiated.
And maybe two women with a genuine grudge, like Rita and Laurie, or even Karen and me, can keep going like that until one or both are maimed.
Make no mistake, what Dawn and I did to each other that night took all summer to heal.
But like all our fights, it ended in a sensible draw. We had checked off an item on our fight bucket list, but hsd stopped before we ruined the good thing we had going.
And, like all our fights, we had already mentally and emotionally "moved on" to the next one.
Which, we both knew, woildn't be between us.
It would be between our daughters.
To be continued......