[Luckyman]

My wife fought this girl in a boxing match and lost (decision by judges).  She was infuriated that she was beaten and trained hard for a rematch, which she won rather handedly.  Of course, her opponent wanted her revenge and challenged her to a third and deciding, “to a knockout” fight.  My wife was so confident that she could beat her again that although she went through the motions of preparing for the fight, didn’t have the drive she did for their previous fight.  She also agreed to fight a bare-knuckle fight (her first).  She lost! Badly.  And since the rules were to not stop the fight until one fighter was knocked out, the fight went on longer than it should have.  Her opponent showed her no mercy. opening up several cuts to her face and knocking her down several times before she finally couldn't stand to be hit anymore and stayed down for the count.  Her breasts were severely bruised and it took her over a week to recover.
Last night my wife wanted to watch a DVD and discovered that I had left the DVD of her terrible loss in the player and asked me why I had watched it.  I told her that although I always want her to win her fights, watching her get beat up is strangely sexy.  She’s having a hard time with that.  Any suggestions?

[shesfinished]

Destroy the DVD

[Sinful Senorita Carmen]

not sure how to legitimately explain how it would be sexy in the case you describe since she literally got hurt.

I did pro wrestling matches that were often scripted, many times I jobbed the match (lost one sided) and sold the moves at the end like I was out cold sometimes even getting carried out on a stretcher.  However, it was all an act and once I got backstage, I had a beer with my opponent, and all was cool.  Of course, as I got a little bit older, I would wake up with a sore back or whatever the next day from being powerbombed or slammed.   

But yeah, I have had boyfriends that watch say I looked sexy too because of the way I sold the moves and all but I never was legit hurt.

As for that DVD?  are you the only one with that copy I hope?

[LQQKING4CATFIGHTER]

   From trading videos with many fans over the years I find it 50/50 for fan of fighter to want to see them winner or loser. Would say the same for fans into see wife or gf fight and be a winner or loser.
  I'd say the ones into seeing winner like strong, tough and powerful women, the ones that like to see the losers like jobbers and weak fighters that are broken after the match and need saving maybe in their mind by them?
   I'm mixed as love to see a top fighter lose and see defeat in their face but also love to see the best looking fighter win.

[Slowakei222]

It is always sexy

[lumberjack66]

I would say her courage in the face of defeat was almost as sexy as her winning.  And because she is your wife, no matter what you are turned on by her fighting.

I would say most guys are turned on no matter what seeing women fight.  At least if they are turned on by women fighting to begin with.  I would say there is a tiny minority that are only turned on if their woman wins or looses.  Maybe 5%. There is probably an equal number that are turned on by only the winner or only the looser (ie. they only want to be with the winner of the fight or only with the looser).  I don't think you should try to use that to explain this to your wife, but just as background.

[snw]

It also depends on how attractive her opponent was. If she was pretty hot or enough so that your wife could see you being attracted to her especially when she’d been beaten by her. If she knows how much girls fighting turns you on it would be easy for her to assume the other girl was attractive in your eyes. Even worse too if the other girl was doing a lot of shit talking to you about kicking her ass. I alway told my wife I liked the thought of having to take care of her after the fight. No way was I going tell it as it was each time. She never actually got into a fight when she or the other girl was hurt. She told me stories and sometimes it turned me on more to see her lose than win so she would do so in her stories. She seemed to buy the fact I was turned on by her losing so I could take care of her. In reality if her opponent was attractive and had bigger boobs then I was attracted to the winner.  Not that I’d ever act on it in real life or see her or the other girl really hurt. For fantasy though it was what it was. The fact she would tell stories of fighting my ex gf’s made them even hotter and in turn her losing did make the other girl very desirable. Kinda long winded round about answer but try and sale it as wanting to save her from her opponent. The dvd I’d hide really well or throw it out. On video though you know she’s not being hurt at the time you’re watching it. Now when it was real life I’d have a hard time seeing her hurt so badly. I hopeful she fought for her own reasons and not solely to turn you on. That would be hard for me to watch if that was the case.

[Horny-Jew]

Sorry - not sexy at all. What would you have done if she had a concussion or needed facial reconstruction ?

[AnitaSpanking]

i've been told many times that it's sexy.... 

[joenstl]

I agree with FeistyBeth 100%. 

[Slowakei222]

Because i can on my Hansa nothing do

[Azaalardons]

I think its normal normal to want you partner to loose, my wife admitted  me she wants another to overpower me,  I saw her loose a few rounds , it was the best!

[herboyfriend]

Wife or girlfriend doesn't make a difference, and to imagine my girlfriend getting defeated and humiliated in fights is my basic recurring sexy fantasy in all kinds of variations, and I think there are many for whom that's how the turn-on works. For different people, there might be different psychological reasons for it -?
There's a definite split between fantasy and reality for me though:
 While in a fantasy my girlfriend could have her face spat on, her body squeezed in bearhugs and headlocks until she passes out, be spanked until she pleads for mercy, and eventually be 'thrown away' into a garbage container by the other woman, IRL only perhaps a test of strength like arm wrestling would be okay for me but not much else. No matter what turns me on in a fantasy, IRL I wouldn't want the woman I love to even have her face slapped once, never mind anything else.

[Azaalardons]

Wife or girlfriend doesn't make a difference, and to imagine my girlfriend getting defeated and humiliated in fights is my basic recurring sexy fantasy in all kinds of variations, and I think there are many for whom that's how the turn-on works. For different people, there might be different psychological reasons for it -?
There's a definite split between fantasy and reality for me though:
 While in a fantasy my girlfriend could have her face spat on, her body squeezed in bearhugs and headlocks until she passes out, be spanked until she pleads for mercy, and eventually be 'thrown away' into a garbage container by the other woman, IRL only perhaps a test of strength like arm wrestling would be okay for me but not much else. No matter what turns me on in a fantasy, IRL I wouldn't want the woman I love to even have her face slapped once, never mind anything else.

What about non violent matches ,like wrestling? I love catfight  but I would never ask my wife to go in one, I could not stand to see her hurt.
To see my wife struggle for domination or being dominated by another woman is the best experience  I had when it comes to the kink , videos do not retranscript the mood ..conferences  and live events  do not share the same privacy ..Fantasy barely exist for pure catfight (videos) now , since IRL exist..I wonder why there is not more people sharing the kink with their girl or wife...why is this kink is still a taboo?

[jessiefite]

Explain it to her the way it was once explained to me.  "You look so sexy when you are being dominated, humiliated and hurt.  It brings out the opposing instincts in me for both wanting to watch the cruelty and wanting to hold you, tend to you when its over.  It makes me feel even closer to you than I have ever felt before."