Let's open the BIG discussion.
"Reality is often disappointing".
These are fantasies for the most part, fetishes or whatever you want to call them. It's hard for anyone to accept something like that.
If a woman finds out about a hypothetical betrayal or another lover or anything that today's society considers wrong, 10/10 you run into problems, divorces etc.
In reality something like that doesn't happen. In short, it's nice to read or write stories in which the lover faces his wife, wins and gets everything he's always wanted, but there's always the other side of the coin.
What does the wife do? She asks for a divorce and what does she put in the motivation? "I lost to my rival in a sexual fight?"
There are documents, facts, people who know each other in the middle, it's not easy to have a scene like that.
Obviously if, and I say only IF, everyone agrees, something can be arranged.
I am not lucky enough to have someone who shares this passion by my side, so I don't know how it could evolve, but surely there is someone in here who has proposed and actually fought for her man or for some other reason. However, this has not "destroyed" her life. Her husband has stayed with her, her life continues as usual.
At most, you can think that the winner will screw the man in front of the other as a prize, but this is a decision made beforehand and that the wife or in any case both lovers have accepted and that will not have (I hope) future repercussions.
In short, it is damn rare that this thing can happen. As an egoist, I say that if there is the possibility, one should also go to the other side of the world on foot to see a fantasy like this come true... but we all understand that it is this: a fantasy.
That said, leaving aside the philosophical thought about how limiting life is, I would say that the journey is worth it, IF you talked to each other FIRST and made things clear.
~ Susanoom
