[Jessica189]

As for how we found the other girl and the tension between us it actually started back in high school. I've been with my current boyfriend since high school and for a brief period we had broken up. She had always been into him and used that as an opportunity to move in on him. She and my boyfriend then dated briefly before he broke up with her to go back with me. We definitely don't "wish death" on each other, but I've always been pretty upset she even got with him to begin with so quickly after we had broken up. I'm also not sure to what extent the relationship went when they were dating and that bothers me a bit. My boyfriend has always been pretty reserved about telling me what went on with him and Jenn back then. I'm sure she must have been upset he got back with me after dumping her as well, maybe that's some possible motivation for her? I'm not sure. We've been pretty civil with each other since everything happened in high school as all 3 of us even attended the same college as each other, so we've seen quite a bit of one another. I still wouldn't put us as "friends" as their is always that "uneasy" feeling we get around each other. Tension as you said would be a good word. Jenn currently works on campus with my boyfriend. They don't work together directly, but they do see each other from time to time, which is when he spoke to her about everything and made the arrangements. We actually all just met earlier today to go over everything and we'll be doing that again the morning of the fight.

Ah I see so there is a little history there. I think it could play a role in her choosing to do this, but only she knows. How did things go between the two of you when you met up this morning?

Do you think you will be able to stay within the rules for this given your past? How do you think it may impact the fight?

The meeting was very tense although we just the details of the fight and so far we're in agreement with everything. I don't think we'll have a problem keeping tot he few rules we have in place as they're just to ensure safety.

As for as how the past will impact the fight? I'm not sure. It's definitely gonna give me that little extra motivation to beat her. I want her to KNOW my boyfriend made the right description years ago, you know what I mean? I'm sure it's motivation for her as well to try to "prove her worth" so to speak and make him desire what could have been.  

Is that what you meant?

So you could feel the animosity huh, any pointed type comments towards the other from either one of you? What rules have you decided on so far?

Yeah, just seems like it's gonna give the fight an extra edge. Be careful not to go too crazy with it though, sometimes when you get two people who have a past such as you two have, even if you don't totally hate each other per se, it could be easy to get out of hand where one or both of you could get hurt badly. Keep that in mind, try to keep as level a head as you can.

How long has it been since all that was going on?

No pointed comments, just heavy tension.

So far we've decided on the format 3 fights each day for 3 days (If necessary) with the winner of the best 2/3 winning the day. The wrestling and boxing rules are pretty standard. As for the catfighting we've leaving it pretty open, but no hitting the other person after they give or if they can't fight back, like in the case of a knockout.

I'll definitely keep your advice in mind as I understand what your saying and I'll try to keep as level a head as possible.

If you mean how long since it's been since the who dating incident in high school, it's been around 6-8 years I'd have to guess. Since the dating thing happened in our sophomore year in high school and we're now nearing the end of our studies in college. I was around 16 then and I'm 24 now.  

Probably best to leave the catfight part open, since rules could easily be broken anyway probably, even more so given the backstory here. Still keeping that level head is a good idea for both of you. Besides, if you're gonna do this all weekend, you don't wanna hurt each other so bad that the whole thing gets shortened or you have a bad experience you know? You could hypothetically have some restrictions in the 1st catfight maybe partly for that purpose as well give you a little chance to feel each other out, and then once you've done it once depending on how you like it, have less in the later ones. But that's just an idea, take it for what you will.

Ah so it's had some time to fester, did your past history with her play much a factor into her being chosen for this? Or was that just coincidence?

Well I let my boyfriend choose, but I'm sure it helped that he happens to see her occasionally at school. Not to mention he probably figured it would make for an exciting fight because he's picked up on the tension between us, especially from my end as he knows I get frustrated when he won't give me the details on the short time he spent with her. So yeah the past probably influenced his descision, but it was also a bit of coincidence as well. I'd imagine though this is probably his dream opponent for me given the way the relationships went down and tension it created.

I mean from a guys perspective, wouldn't want to see your ex get beaten in a cat fight by your current GF, right? ; )

[Jessica189]

As for how we found the other girl and the tension between us it actually started back in high school. I've been with my current boyfriend since high school and for a brief period we had broken up. She had always been into him and used that as an opportunity to move in on him. She and my boyfriend then dated briefly before he broke up with her to go back with me. We definitely don't "wish death" on each other, but I've always been pretty upset she even got with him to begin with so quickly after we had broken up. I'm also not sure to what extent the relationship went when they were dating and that bothers me a bit. My boyfriend has always been pretty reserved about telling me what went on with him and Jenn back then. I'm sure she must have been upset he got back with me after dumping her as well, maybe that's some possible motivation for her? I'm not sure. We've been pretty civil with each other since everything happened in high school as all 3 of us even attended the same college as each other, so we've seen quite a bit of one another. I still wouldn't put us as "friends" as their is always that "uneasy" feeling we get around each other. Tension as you said would be a good word. Jenn currently works on campus with my boyfriend. They don't work together directly, but they do see each other from time to time, which is when he spoke to her about everything and made the arrangements. We actually all just met earlier today to go over everything and we'll be doing that again the morning of the fight.

Ah I see so there is a little history there. I think it could play a role in her choosing to do this, but only she knows. How did things go between the two of you when you met up this morning?

Do you think you will be able to stay within the rules for this given your past? How do you think it may impact the fight?

The meeting was very tense although we just the details of the fight and so far we're in agreement with everything. I don't think we'll have a problem keeping tot he few rules we have in place as they're just to ensure safety.

As for as how the past will impact the fight? I'm not sure. It's definitely gonna give me that little extra motivation to beat her. I want her to KNOW my boyfriend made the right description years ago, you know what I mean? I'm sure it's motivation for her as well to try to "prove her worth" so to speak and make him desire what could have been.  

Is that what you meant?

So you could feel the animosity huh, any pointed type comments towards the other from either one of you? What rules have you decided on so far?

Yeah, just seems like it's gonna give the fight an extra edge. Be careful not to go too crazy with it though, sometimes when you get two people who have a past such as you two have, even if you don't totally hate each other per se, it could be easy to get out of hand where one or both of you could get hurt badly. Keep that in mind, try to keep as level a head as you can.

How long has it been since all that was going on?

No pointed comments, just heavy tension.

So far we've decided on the format 3 fights each day for 3 days (If necessary) with the winner of the best 2/3 winning the day. The wrestling and boxing rules are pretty standard. As for the catfighting we've leaving it pretty open, but no hitting the other person after they give or if they can't fight back, like in the case of a knockout.

I'll definitely keep your advice in mind as I understand what your saying and I'll try to keep as level a head as possible.

If you mean how long since it's been since the who dating incident in high school, it's been around 6-8 years I'd have to guess. Since the dating thing happened in our sophomore year in high school and we're now nearing the end of our studies in college. I was around 16 then and I'm 24 now.  

Probably best to leave the catfight part open, since rules could easily be broken anyway probably, even more so given the backstory here. Still keeping that level head is a good idea for both of you. Besides, if you're gonna do this all weekend, you don't wanna hurt each other so bad that the whole thing gets shortened or you have a bad experience you know? You could hypothetically have some restrictions in the 1st catfight maybe partly for that purpose as well give you a little chance to feel each other out, and then once you've done it once depending on how you like it, have less in the later ones. But that's just an idea, take it for what you will.

Ah so it's had some time to fester, did your past history with her play much a factor into her being chosen for this? Or was that just coincidence?

Well I let my boyfriend choose, but I'm sure it helped that he happens to see her occasionally at school. Not to mention he probably figured it would make for an exciting fight because he's picked up on the tension between us, especially from my end as he knows I get frustrated when he won't give me the details on the short time he spent with her. So yeah the past probably influenced his descision, but it was also a bit of coincidence as well. I'd imagine though this is probably his dream opponent for me given the way the relationships went down and tension it created.

I mean from a guys perspective, wouldn't want to see your ex get beaten in a cat fight by your current GF, right? ; )

lol maybe, but in a case like that it'd almost be more about the fight lol, and if it could be a good fight as one like that surely would and will be, it sure might peak my interest lol.   If it can settle a score, all the better lol, sort of a way to gain a form of closure you might say. If the tension was so strong, it may have eventually happened anyway so probably best it goes down like this as opposed to other ways which may have been worse.

Had you ever had an inkling he would have liked to see you two go at it in the past?

Haha, yeah I know, whatever the outcome I want the fights to be good, but I do really want to win to prove to him I can handle myself in a scrap, and I want her to see that I'm clearly the better woman. I know he's going to be excited just seeing the fight, but I'd at least hope my boyfriend is, in my corner, so to speak. Know what I mean?

As for him hinting at this in the past, he definitely has a little bit. I was pressuring him to tell me if he had slept with Jenn, because I was a virgin at the time, and I said I'd beat her ass if he did. Then he said something to the effect of "Well, in that case I definitely did." With a sarcastic / half serious tone in his voice. I guess that was his way of saying he'd like to see us fight, huh?

[Jessica189]

As for how we found the other girl and the tension between us it actually started back in high school. I've been with my current boyfriend since high school and for a brief period we had broken up. She had always been into him and used that as an opportunity to move in on him. She and my boyfriend then dated briefly before he broke up with her to go back with me. We definitely don't "wish death" on each other, but I've always been pretty upset she even got with him to begin with so quickly after we had broken up. I'm also not sure to what extent the relationship went when they were dating and that bothers me a bit. My boyfriend has always been pretty reserved about telling me what went on with him and Jenn back then. I'm sure she must have been upset he got back with me after dumping her as well, maybe that's some possible motivation for her? I'm not sure. We've been pretty civil with each other since everything happened in high school as all 3 of us even attended the same college as each other, so we've seen quite a bit of one another. I still wouldn't put us as "friends" as their is always that "uneasy" feeling we get around each other. Tension as you said would be a good word. Jenn currently works on campus with my boyfriend. They don't work together directly, but they do see each other from time to time, which is when he spoke to her about everything and made the arrangements. We actually all just met earlier today to go over everything and we'll be doing that again the morning of the fight.

Ah I see so there is a little history there. I think it could play a role in her choosing to do this, but only she knows. How did things go between the two of you when you met up this morning?

Do you think you will be able to stay within the rules for this given your past? How do you think it may impact the fight?

The meeting was very tense although we just the details of the fight and so far we're in agreement with everything. I don't think we'll have a problem keeping tot he few rules we have in place as they're just to ensure safety.

As for as how the past will impact the fight? I'm not sure. It's definitely gonna give me that little extra motivation to beat her. I want her to KNOW my boyfriend made the right description years ago, you know what I mean? I'm sure it's motivation for her as well to try to "prove her worth" so to speak and make him desire what could have been.  

Is that what you meant?

So you could feel the animosity huh, any pointed type comments towards the other from either one of you? What rules have you decided on so far?

Yeah, just seems like it's gonna give the fight an extra edge. Be careful not to go too crazy with it though, sometimes when you get two people who have a past such as you two have, even if you don't totally hate each other per se, it could be easy to get out of hand where one or both of you could get hurt badly. Keep that in mind, try to keep as level a head as you can.

How long has it been since all that was going on?

No pointed comments, just heavy tension.

So far we've decided on the format 3 fights each day for 3 days (If necessary) with the winner of the best 2/3 winning the day. The wrestling and boxing rules are pretty standard. As for the catfighting we've leaving it pretty open, but no hitting the other person after they give or if they can't fight back, like in the case of a knockout.

I'll definitely keep your advice in mind as I understand what your saying and I'll try to keep as level a head as possible.

If you mean how long since it's been since the who dating incident in high school, it's been around 6-8 years I'd have to guess. Since the dating thing happened in our sophomore year in high school and we're now nearing the end of our studies in college. I was around 16 then and I'm 24 now.  

Probably best to leave the catfight part open, since rules could easily be broken anyway probably, even more so given the backstory here. Still keeping that level head is a good idea for both of you. Besides, if you're gonna do this all weekend, you don't wanna hurt each other so bad that the whole thing gets shortened or you have a bad experience you know? You could hypothetically have some restrictions in the 1st catfight maybe partly for that purpose as well give you a little chance to feel each other out, and then once you've done it once depending on how you like it, have less in the later ones. But that's just an idea, take it for what you will.

Ah so it's had some time to fester, did your past history with her play much a factor into her being chosen for this? Or was that just coincidence?

Well I let my boyfriend choose, but I'm sure it helped that he happens to see her occasionally at school. Not to mention he probably figured it would make for an exciting fight because he's picked up on the tension between us, especially from my end as he knows I get frustrated when he won't give me the details on the short time he spent with her. So yeah the past probably influenced his descision, but it was also a bit of coincidence as well. I'd imagine though this is probably his dream opponent for me given the way the relationships went down and tension it created.

I mean from a guys perspective, wouldn't want to see your ex get beaten in a cat fight by your current GF, right? ; )

lol maybe, but in a case like that it'd almost be more about the fight lol, and if it could be a good fight as one like that surely would and will be, it sure might peak my interest lol.   If it can settle a score, all the better lol, sort of a way to gain a form of closure you might say. If the tension was so strong, it may have eventually happened anyway so probably best it goes down like this as opposed to other ways which may have been worse.

Had you ever had an inkling he would have liked to see you two go at it in the past?

Haha, yeah I know, whatever the outcome I want the fights to be good, but I do really want to win to prove to him I can handle myself in a scrap, and I want her to see that I'm clearly the better woman. I know he's going to be excited just seeing the fight, but I'd at least hope my boyfriend is, in my corner, so to speak. Know what I mean?

As for him hinting at this in the past, he definitely has a little bit. I was pressuring him to tell me if he had slept with Jenn, because I was a virgin at the time, and I said I'd beat her ass if he did. Then he said something to the effect of "Well, in that case I definitely did." With a sarcastic / half serious tone in his voice. I guess that was his way of saying he'd like to see us fight, huh?

Yeah, probably even moreso actually given the fact that he was with her I'd imagine.

Yeah I'd say so, maybe you should use that for motivation if you really need it lol. Imagine that she did sleep with him, if that doesn't get you ready for this, not sure much would lol.

Well to be honest that's the question that's been driving me crazy. Basically what had happened was that we didn't have sex before we broke up the first time. We we're both virgins, he wanted to, but I wasn't ready. Then he dated Jenn for a while before we started talking again and he broke up with her soon after. Soon after we got back together we had sex for the first time and I was under the impression we were both virgins. Before that rumors were going around at school that he dumped me to sleep with Jenn. Of course I took my boyfriends word over the rumors and I still do, but sometimes the doubts creep into my head. It's just the way he talks about the whole Jenn incident when I bring it up. He goes into that half sarcastic/half serious tone of voice, we're it seems like he's trying to laugh everything off, instead of actually answer the question. I mean if I did really find out he slept with her I'd be completely devastated. We had been dating for a year prior so it would hurt if he left me just to sleep with Jenn. I'd probably be a complete mess, more than angry, at least at first.

At that point I'd really have to question if he's truly in "my corner" you know what I mean?

But I guess you're right if I try to imagine he did sleep with her and get angry it should definitely give me and edge in the fight!

[Jessica189]

What do you think of the idea of having long breaks between the individual bouts BTW? I think it'd be a good idea, as you don't wanna overwork yourselves especially since as I said neither of you have any background in this much less are trained to be able to handle an event where much endurance may be required of you.

Course suppose it could go the other way too, where too much downtime between fights could cause injuries from just the quick starts and stops, or in effect having to rewarm up yourselves for each match. But I might consider it, maybe at the least a half hour break between events or something?

Oh yea, definitely. I'm actually thinking at least an hour break at minimum in order to give time to replenish, recover, and dehydrate. I suspect no matter how we do the breaks the person who wins the first fight will definitely have the edge going into the second, not just mentally, but physically as well. I guess that's just part of the endurance test though.

[Jessica189]

Yeah, probably even moreso actually given the fact that he was with her I'd imagine.

Yeah I'd say so, maybe you should use that for motivation if you really need it lol. Imagine that she did sleep with him, if that doesn't get you ready for this, not sure much would lol.

Well to be honest that's the question that's been driving me crazy. Basically what had happened was that we didn't have sex before we broke up the first time. We we're both virgins, he wanted to, but I wasn't ready. Then he dated Jenn for a while before we started talking again and he broke up with her soon after. Soon after we got back together we had sex for the first time and I was under the impression we were both virgins. Before that rumors were going around at school that he dumped me to sleep with Jenn. Of course I took my boyfriends word over the rumors and I still do, but sometimes the doubts creep into my head. It's just the way he talks about the whole Jenn incident when I bring it up. He goes into that half sarcastic/half serious tone of voice, we're it seems like he's trying to laugh everything off, instead of actually answer the question. I mean if I did really find out he slept with her I'd be completely devastated. We had been dating for a year prior so it would hurt if he left me just to sleep with Jenn. I'd probably be a complete mess, more than angry, at least at first.

At that point I'd really have to question if he's truly in "my corner" you know what I mean?

You know if I'm to be honest with you here, at some point you have to question I think is all of this really worth it if he isn't gonna be honest about this? He could be trying to protect your feelings, but.....I don't know. It's worse to have done it and lie or not answer, than to be honest about it from the start I think. How's he handling it suggests to me he did it but doesn't want to admit it.

Even the fight part itself could almost be a little selfish on his end if you think about it, particularly with her. It's like he doesn't really seem to care about your feelings on the situation, but just likes the idea of you two fighting it out with little else mattering. No disrespect intended of course.

That may be something you might wanna think about here. That is to say, do you love him more than he loves you?

Well I mean I hate to just start assuming things based on hunches? You know what I mean? He's been a really caring, loving, and supportive boyfriend ever since we've been together, so I really want to do this for him. I'd even hate to get angry over some mistake that was made years ago, but I have to admit it would upset me and make me sad. I mean it's possible he's just trying to get a rise out of me for fun whenever we talk about the issue. He's a funny guy and likes to joke a lot. I mean he did already tell me straight that he was a virgin before we had sex, so that pretty much answers the question I guess. Maybe he thinks he's already answered it, so now he doesn't really take me seriously when I bring the subject up now?

At the end of the day I'd hate to fault him for something he didn't so without any evidence, you know what I mean? It's just something that keeps entering into my mind for some reason.

[Jessica189]

Yeah, probably even moreso actually given the fact that he was with her I'd imagine.

Yeah I'd say so, maybe you should use that for motivation if you really need it lol. Imagine that she did sleep with him, if that doesn't get you ready for this, not sure much would lol.

Well to be honest that's the question that's been driving me crazy. Basically what had happened was that we didn't have sex before we broke up the first time. We we're both virgins, he wanted to, but I wasn't ready. Then he dated Jenn for a while before we started talking again and he broke up with her soon after. Soon after we got back together we had sex for the first time and I was under the impression we were both virgins. Before that rumors were going around at school that he dumped me to sleep with Jenn. Of course I took my boyfriends word over the rumors and I still do, but sometimes the doubts creep into my head. It's just the way he talks about the whole Jenn incident when I bring it up. He goes into that half sarcastic/half serious tone of voice, we're it seems like he's trying to laugh everything off, instead of actually answer the question. I mean if I did really find out he slept with her I'd be completely devastated. We had been dating for a year prior so it would hurt if he left me just to sleep with Jenn. I'd probably be a complete mess, more than angry, at least at first.

At that point I'd really have to question if he's truly in "my corner" you know what I mean?

You know if I'm to be honest with you here, at some point you have to question I think is all of this really worth it if he isn't gonna be honest about this? He could be trying to protect your feelings, but.....I don't know. It's worse to have done it and lie or not answer, than to be honest about it from the start I think. How's he handling it suggests to me he did it but doesn't want to admit it.

Even the fight part itself could almost be a little selfish on his end if you think about it, particularly with her. It's like he doesn't really seem to care about your feelings on the situation, but just likes the idea of you two fighting it out with little else mattering. No disrespect intended of course.

That may be something you might wanna think about here. That is to say, do you love him more than he loves you?

Well I mean I hate to just start assuming things based on hunches? You know what I mean? He's been a really caring, loving, and supportive boyfriend ever since we've been together, so I really want to do this for him. I'd even hate to get angry over some mistake that was made years ago, but I have to admit it would upset me and make me sad. I mean it's possible he's just trying to get a rise out of me for fun whenever we talk about the issue. He's a funny guy and likes to joke a lot. I mean he did already tell me straight that he was a virgin before we had sex, so that pretty much answers the question I guess. Maybe he thinks he's already answered it, so now he doesn't really take me seriously when I bring the subject up now?

At the end of the day I'd hate to fault him for something he didn't so without any evidence, you know what I mean? It's just something that keeps entering into my mind for some reason.

Looking back at your earlier comment, I think the fact that when you were first together he wanted sex and you didn't, you broke up, and then all these rumors started about him and Jenn after is a little bit telling. That in itself might indicate he did it, because it very well could be with Jenn he could get something you weren't willing to give. Hence he went with her, got it, and when she wasn't useful to him anymore basically he came back to you. Does that make sense?

Yeah, I've thought of that before, the only thing that doesn't make sense is why would he come back to me? He didn't really know I was going to sleep with him soon after we got back together. You know what I mean? Although I do admit the rumors at the time definitely pressured me to take things to the next level when we started dating again. At the end of the day though I don't really think I have enough evidence to comfortably accuse him of something. You know what I mean?

[Jessica189]

But I guess you're right if I try to imagine he did sleep with her and get angry it should definitely give me and edge in the fight!

I think that might, just as long as you don't let it get you so upset that you lose total control of yourself. Don't want things to become a total brawl or anything here, so be sure you keep calm though focused. Actually, that could give you a mental edge, if you don't show any intimidation or anything and sort of keep a poker face you know? It might throw her a little bit if you are hard to read.

Yeah I also don't wanna lose focus due to rage and have it act as a disadvantage.

[Jessica189]

Yeah, probably even moreso actually given the fact that he was with her I'd imagine.

Yeah I'd say so, maybe you should use that for motivation if you really need it lol. Imagine that she did sleep with him, if that doesn't get you ready for this, not sure much would lol.

Well to be honest that's the question that's been driving me crazy. Basically what had happened was that we didn't have sex before we broke up the first time. We we're both virgins, he wanted to, but I wasn't ready. Then he dated Jenn for a while before we started talking again and he broke up with her soon after. Soon after we got back together we had sex for the first time and I was under the impression we were both virgins. Before that rumors were going around at school that he dumped me to sleep with Jenn. Of course I took my boyfriends word over the rumors and I still do, but sometimes the doubts creep into my head. It's just the way he talks about the whole Jenn incident when I bring it up. He goes into that half sarcastic/half serious tone of voice, we're it seems like he's trying to laugh everything off, instead of actually answer the question. I mean if I did really find out he slept with her I'd be completely devastated. We had been dating for a year prior so it would hurt if he left me just to sleep with Jenn. I'd probably be a complete mess, more than angry, at least at first.

At that point I'd really have to question if he's truly in "my corner" you know what I mean?

You know if I'm to be honest with you here, at some point you have to question I think is all of this really worth it if he isn't gonna be honest about this? He could be trying to protect your feelings, but.....I don't know. It's worse to have done it and lie or not answer, than to be honest about it from the start I think. How's he handling it suggests to me he did it but doesn't want to admit it.

Even the fight part itself could almost be a little selfish on his end if you think about it, particularly with her. It's like he doesn't really seem to care about your feelings on the situation, but just likes the idea of you two fighting it out with little else mattering. No disrespect intended of course.

That may be something you might wanna think about here. That is to say, do you love him more than he loves you?

Well I mean I hate to just start assuming things based on hunches? You know what I mean? He's been a really caring, loving, and supportive boyfriend ever since we've been together, so I really want to do this for him. I'd even hate to get angry over some mistake that was made years ago, but I have to admit it would upset me and make me sad. I mean it's possible he's just trying to get a rise out of me for fun whenever we talk about the issue. He's a funny guy and likes to joke a lot. I mean he did already tell me straight that he was a virgin before we had sex, so that pretty much answers the question I guess. Maybe he thinks he's already answered it, so now he doesn't really take me seriously when I bring the subject up now?

At the end of the day I'd hate to fault him for something he didn't so without any evidence, you know what I mean? It's just something that keeps entering into my mind for some reason.

Looking back at your earlier comment, I think the fact that when you were first together he wanted sex and you didn't, you broke up, and then all these rumors started about him and Jenn after is a little bit telling. That in itself might indicate he did it, because it very well could be with Jenn he could get something you weren't willing to give. Hence he went with her, got it, and when she wasn't useful to him anymore basically he came back to you. Does that make sense?

Yeah, I've thought of that before, the only thing that doesn't make sense is why would he come back to me? He didn't really know I was going to sleep with him soon after we got back together. You know what I mean? Although I do admit the rumors at the time definitely pressured me to take things to the next level when we started dating again. At the end of the day though I don't really think I have enough evidence to comfortably accuse him of something. You know what I mean?

I would think he would come back cause at that point he already got what he wanted basically, so it didn't matter as much that you weren't gonna give it to him neccessarily after.

It's true you don't, but just some things to consider here.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I think I'm just going to try to put these thoughts behind me for now though and focus on the fight itself.

[Jessica189]

Heyy everyone!

Just got back from meeting Jenn and things got pretty heated to say the least.

She was definitely a little more vocal without my boyfriend around.

I was telling her about the 3 days of 3 falls each, when we interrupted me saying. "Don't you mean 2 days of 2 falls, each? I'm sure it will be over by then, we probably won't even get to do all of the fight types."

I just tried to brush it off laughingly and just moved on to how we're going to rotate the types of fights. She interrupted me again saying that I better put wrestling first on both days because if we do boxing or catfighting first I'm not going to be able to recover in time from the beating she's going to give me to do anymore fights for the day. Do you believe that arrogant bitch?

At that point I was getting pretty flustered, but I just had to tell myself to keep my cool and save everything for the fight.

We moved on to talking about the rules for each type of fight we decided on the following.

Wrestling: Chokes, holds, and typical wrestling moves can be applied. No punching, kicking. She insisted that we allow breast smothering and face sitting as types of submissions possible so that she could "sit on my face and smother with me her superior boobs" like that will happen, in her dreams. I have no idea where she gets her tits are "superior" to mine. As my boyfriend loves every bit of my 32B's. ; )

Boxing: Just punching, nothing below the waist. Standard boxing stuff.

Catfighting: We've established that we both want this to be an intense fight, so pretty much anything goes. We just can't use any props/objects just our bodies and you can hit someone that cant fight back (knocked out) or that has given up.

For clothing we decided to start off in good ole fashion lingerie for each fight and whatever happens, happens.

I was pretty sure we had covered everything and that when she mentioned something I hadn't even considered, stakes. At first I didn't understand I asked if she wanted money if she won? She said not to be silly and she knew what I meant. She said that this fight should be an opportunity for us each to get some closure on all that has happened, but in order to do that stakes needs to be put in place. Otherwise, it's all just pointless and no1 will get closure. At first I had thought "This isn't what I signed on for, I just wanted to show my boyfriend a good time", but I eventually realized I had been wanting closure with Jenn for a long time now, ever since she started going out with my boyfriend. I had wanted to settle this sooner, but I just never acting upon my desires, and neither had she.

So I asked what she had in mind and she said it was simple. My boyfriend was supposed to be her first time but then he left her to come back to me. She said she's never really gotten over that and has always wanted to sleep with him ever since. If she won she said she wanted to be able to sleep with my boyfriend. At first I said no adamantly, I told her I don't want her trying to steal my boyfriend. Then she called me out asking why I was afraid if I thought I was going to win. She said I must not be confident about the fight.  I said it didn't have anything to do with that and how anything can happen in a fight, but she said she refused to fight unless her conditions were met. She then said that she didn't want to "take him" she only wanted a night with him, with me being forced to watch, and that was only if he consented to to. As soon as she mentioned that I wasn't worried at all! I know my boyfriend would never do anything like that, especially finding out that they hadn't slept together back when I thought they had. I didn't want to accept just then though, I told her something had to be in it for me. What did I get if I won? She said she'd be willing to get out of our life forever and admit defeat completely, she wouldn't even talk to my boyfriend again. Not only that, but she said that I could humiliate her in any way I wanted in front of him, as long as it wasn't permanently scarring/damaging to her body. She even said that I could force her to watch us sleeping together. Something she said she dreads whenever she thinks about it, so seeing it happen would be much worse and embarrassing.

This sealed the deal for me. It had never really occurred to me in the past how much this situation and Jenn bothered me, but when she presented me with the opportunity to humiliate her I just couldn't refuse. Besides, I had nothing to lose anyway, I know my boyfriend wouldn't betray me right in front of my own eyes! I just had to take this opportunity to get some closure and to get Jenn away from my man once and for all no matter what it takes. I really didn't want it to come to that, but it's true she's been like a constant shadow in the distance that wont go away ever since our relationship in high school. If she has to be humiliated in front of my boyfriend to leave us alone than so be it!

With everything pretty much finalized she left and now all that's left to do is wait till tomorrow night!

[Jessica189]

Oh wow, well on the one hand now you can be comforted knowing he didn't sleep with her (sorry about the accusations BTW, was only going on the information given), but are you sure you really wanna do this? What will you do if you lose? I'm not sure it's the best idea to in effect put your boyfriend on the line here, though it helps I guess that it'd be his choice.

Sounds like it is gonna be a war now though in any case to say the very least. I wish you luck. Are you planning on having mouthpieces for the boxing BTW? Rounds?

Yeah, it was a relief to find out they hadn't slept together.

I've given this quite a bit of thought and yeah, I'm sure I want to do it. I know this started out as just a fun thing for my boyfriend, but like I said now that Jenn is my opponent I feel like this is my chance to stand up for myself and my relationship. It's true what Jenn said about the stakes, what good would it do if I beat her and everything went back to normal? She would just be all clingy with my boyfriend as usual. I want her out of our lives! This is the only way she will fight me because she wants to have something to gain for possibly never talking to my boyfriend again.

If I lose, no doubt I'll be devastated about losing to her, but at the same time I know my boyfriend wouldn't choose to sleep with her over me, especially not in front of me like that. He already had the chance to do it once and he passed it up, so why would he bother to now, with our relationship stronger than ever?

As for the mouth pieces, yes we will be using them. The boxing will be 3 rounds with the winner of 2 winning the match or my knockout.

Thank you for the luck wish. I'm a little nervous, but pretty confident I can win. I just need to channel all my emotions and focus on winning each fight!

[Jessica189]

Also, don't worry about the accusations. I know you were just trying to make sure I wasn't being taken advantage of, and I appreciate that.

I'm really thankful for your support and the support of the others in the thread and that have messaged me! When I first looked at the poll I started to worry and was thinking I was a little in over my head. Quite a few people are expecting me to get destroyed by Jenn so that dropped my confidence a little, but with all the the positive thoughts here I really think I can do it, even if it's tough.

I have to ask though, do you really think I have a shot? You're not just saying that be nice, are you? You seem pretty concerned about me losing, but I guess you're just concerned about the consequences IF I lose. If that's the case than I appreciate the concern, but I must go through with this and finally stand up to Jenn for trying to ruin my relationship.

[Brit_brat2]

ha ha

Nice story, should be in the story section though.  You sure seem to know a lot about fighting, the pitfalls and pros and cons considering you have never fought before Jessica. Good research though. 

Brit

[Jessica189]

Well really from what you say, it seems as though the pressure should be squarely on her shoulders here. First she already ran her mouth about how she's gonna kick your ass in this, so it's on her now to back up those words, and second you really don't have anything to lose whereas she does. In order to be able to stay around you and your boyfriend's life, and possibly get what she wanted but didn't get before, she HAS to beat you. Nothing else will be good enough.

You on the other hand, even if you lost, you still stood up to a rival who basically for all intents and purposes has made your life and relationship with your bf hell or at least tried to for so long, not to mention the accusations that were flying around about him and her before on top of that even if it wasn't true. So win or lose, you will have gained some self confidence I think in that you can stand up for yourself and your relationship too when you have to.

Plus, your boyfriend as you said would never do anything with her much less in front of you, so even if you do lose, your relationship could come out of this even stronger just from this fact alone, added on to the fact that you'd have went through all of this for him.

Then of course if you win, you get her out of your life entirely, and get to have your way with her in any way you want. What would you do to her BTW if you did win?

So on the emotional side of this, I think you have the edge, because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain here. At the worst you finally get your hands on someone that has tormented you for a long time, and at the best you get her out of you and your boyfriend's lives for good. In sports it often is that those that have little more than pride to play for, tend to pull the biggest upsets. That could well be the case here.

On the physical side, her experience having had one catfight may play some factor, but.....bear in mind that that one fight was likely nothing like this, and not as long as the catfight(s) you will have will be. So that experience may not matter all that much given that. Plus, it's not gonna be all that anyway, so at best she'd only have the edge in one event and you could make up for it in the others in which you'd be more even since neither of you will have done anything like that before. Are you gonna start with wrestling each time like she suggested, or no? It might not be a bad idea to do actually, could serve as sort of a warmup to the other more intense fights.

I really think for the most part the physical part is gonna be more or less even though I might watch for her thighs in the wrestling part, but the emotional aspect to this gives you an advantage I think with all the build up and emotions festering inside of you for so long. That could make the difference in the fight.

I think it's good it's being settled by this though one way or the other. If it was gonna be inevitable may as well do it right to a definitive conclusion, rather than have it kick off somewhere at random and not be settled at all you know? What's your boyfriend think of all this now?

Yeah I guess now that you mention it the pressure really is on her to get what she wants. First she have to beat me in the fight like you said, and then she'd have to seduce my boyfriend into fucking her in front of me, which I think would be pretty hard for her to do. I'm just a little concerned because it's likely that my boyfriend will be really excited/hard as a result of the fights. So if I lose I'd be kind of afraid of his impulses taking over in the heat of the moment, you know what I mean? I guess I just have to trust him, as he hasn't let me down so far. : )

I do feel quite a bit of pressure on myself though for a number of reasons. First being I wanted to settle this with me being the victor, even if the worst that happens is a loss it's still pretty embarrassing to get beaten by the girl that's been after your boyfriend, you know what I mean. Second is I really think it would make the weekend for my boyfriend, as I mentioned before he really gets off to the dominant girl so I'm sure he'd be extra excited and the victory sex would be phenomenal. ; )

I can see what you're saying about having the mental edge, but also remember her 6-8 years of repressed sexual tension towards my boyfriend. I have a feeling she's going to be fierce and fight with her all until she either ends it or is knocked out herself. I could see the desperation in her eyes when I was talking to her, she looks hungry. I'm going to have to be on my A game and very alert.

I am a little nervous that she's had a catfight and I haven't, but as you said it's only one and this setting is going to be quite different. When she was talking shit about shortening the days and the boxing because we wouldn't need them she mention how she was going to lay me out as quick as she did Alex, the girl she fought. I actually remember seeing the fight during high school and she did utterly destroy poor Alex. I admit I may have been a bit intimidated by her after seeing that, at least at the time. However, like you said it's only one fight and that was high school.

As for the wrestling question we're still going to rotate so we won't always be starting with wrestling. I'm ok with that because after talking with others on the site I think wrestling might be the area she definitely has the edge in due to her weight and height advantages., not to mention her strong thighs as you mentioned. I'll certainly be trying to avoid those as I imagine if I get caught between them it's lights out, haha.

As for my boyfriend he's absolutely thrilled about it and super excited. He's a little nervous for me, especially after I brought up the stakes. He was questioning me as to why/how they ended up being made, but after I explained everything to him he agreed that we need some definitive closure, and this is probably the best way to go about it.

As for what I'm going to do to her if I win? We'' I'll definitely make her watch us fuck, so it will feel like she was so close to what she wanted, but just can't have it. Before that I'll probably dominate her sexually to get my boyfriend really going. It would be a win/win because she'll feel humiliated/embarrassed in front of him so I doubt she'd even desire to see him again, and then my boyfriend is seeing her defeated, on the floor at my mercy, so any attraction/desires he had for her (I have to concede, she is an incredibly hot girl) will disappear after he sees her as a desperate and defeated wreck on the ground. Not to mention all the excitement this will generate will make the victory sex even more enjoyable for us, and more painful for her, haha.

[plzdaim]

Good luck to you!

Keep fighting. She might test you with somed nasty trick. Try to stick to your strategy. And wirh the boxing. Pick your punches. Dont wear yourself out by throwing a lot of haymakers. If you see an opening. Punchn hard and quickly. If you dont, keep moving around. If your punch came through, try to follow up. But still no opening meams a loss of energy.

Success!
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[snw]

Jess when you two were in HS or now did she try to talk trash or compare herself to you trying to make you scared or show your bf or others she was better? did she ever grab you or mess with you pushing trying like she was joking around but trying to show you up. also did she know about your bf intrest in catfighting all along or just found out? if any of this did happen can you explain what when and how?