[Roco]

Hi everyone,

I am considering setting up a private wrestling match between my GF and another women. I have never done this before and I can forsee a number of potential risks that are involved with the process. I am looking for advice from people who have done this before, or the community in general. Some of my concerns are finding the right person, how to screen those people who are looking to take advantage, not who they say they are, or are generally bad news. My GF has never done this before so of course her safety is top priority, what rules would you place in the match? what measures would you take to protect the participants? Is CF forum a good place to advertise and search for participants?

I suppose these questions are a good place to start. Please share with me your own experiences on this topic.

[dfoulup]

Of course the first thing as already mentioned is 'does she want to do it'. 

After that, you did say 'wrestling match'.  If that is what you are looking for, there are rules in wrestling so go look in a book.  You might suggest some training sessions prior to an actual match.  It would enable your girlfriend to learn what is being asked of her; you would get to know potential opponents, etc. 

If you are talking catfight; that is different.  Now she and her opponent need to come up with their own set of rules.  I'd make them pretty comprehensive just so everyone is on the same page and injuries are kept to a minimum.  Training might still be a very good idea for weeding out the nutcases. 

Be upfront about the possibility of injury.  Even a twisted ankle can cause a person to lose time off work, etc.  Is your girlfriend cool with that? 

Best of luck.  Maybe you can share the outcome with us later.

[lumberjack66]

Not sure if I should be putting in my two cents here.  I am one of the great unwashed masses who can't get our wives to try it.  I have asked however.  lol.  And I have been chatting with people who have tried it for a long time.

I am assuming she is willing to do it.  I'll warn you that there are a lot of pretenders on the net.  May take a while to find a real opponent.  One short cut would be to join Voice Verified in the yahoo groups.  Two benefits there: first the people have been prescreened (not a 100% guarantee, but better odds than any place else), and second you can check with their other opponents to make sure they are trustworthy.

Regardless where you find them, voice verify them yourself.  Internet voice chat is fine, phone chat is better, Cam verification is best of all.  Given that the cams and mics are cheap and pretty much everywhere they should be able to do that with you.  If they can't, they probably either are not real or not very committed to finding opponents.  Either way, they are probably wasting your time.

Once you are ready to meet, arrange to meet them somewhere public first.  Enjoy a nice dinner or drink with them or at least meet in a public place.  This gives you a chance to really get to know them, see their body language, make sure you are comfortable with them.  If you are getting bad vibes do not ignore them.  There will be other chances.  If you have to travel, try to go someplace that will be fun for you even if they don't show.  At least then it is not a total loss.  Hopefully you can find somebody local as it will be easier.   

If you are comfortable, have the match.  Especially for the first couple matches I'd strongly recommend doing submission wrestling.  Pin wrestling is fine, but hard to objectively call pins.  Do as many falls as you want (best 2 of 3, 3 of 5, etc).  The chances for injury in submission wrestling are extremely low.  Strained muscles and maybe bruises are about the worst you can get as long as you follow the rules.  It is a contact sport so there is always some risk but that is mostly at higher levels (I knew a wrestler in college that broke his pelvis wrestling, but that was when his opponent flipped him over and slammed him on the ground in near splits... not likely for most women unless they are superwoman).  For extra safety, have the ladies start from the knees.  Ideally, invest in a wrestling mat or pad.  Carpet is fine, but it can leave burns and has surprisingly little cushion.

Then follow the rules.  These things have a way of escalating, so be prepared to step in and stop it even if it is your gf who is escalating them.  The goal is to have some sexy fun, not spend the night in jail for Assault.

Finally, be prepared to loose.  It is important that you prepare her mentally for this, but also prepare yourself.  So many of us guys get wrapped up in the winning or loosing.  She has to know that you love her no matter what and you are proud of her no matter what.  Remember 99.9% of us are not as lucky as you.  She is doing this for you.  You treat her right after or quite honestly you don't deserve her.  She is your goddess!!!  Treat her like one!

[Roco]

Hey everyone,

To answer the first question she and I have talked about it. She knows catfighting/wrestling is a thing of mine, and she may be game to try it but I know she would be uncomfortable, and thus not fun for anyone, unless it was under pretty specific circumstances. First, I think it would be important that we get to know the opponent or the couple before doing it. She does have friends but I think it would be more awkward for her to ask a friend than to try it out with a stranger. It would definitely be embarrassing for both of us to proposition one of her friends, too much risk that they would just think she was weird, and the gossip could get around to people we would prefer not know about this.

Some awesome tips were given. Voice verify, wrestling in clothes first, purchasing of mats, and doing some type of wrestling/mma/kick boxing class are all very good suggestions. I think I like the take a class route because it serves several purposes all at once: training to be more safe, meeting people interested in wrestling, testing the waters to see if she likes it before actually arranging something elaborate, doing something together which is always good for the relationship, and if all else doesn't work out at least we got some good exercise. I also like the idea of starting on knees, that would definitely reduce chance of injury. I was surprised that someone said submission was safer than pins. I agree that pins are harder to judge than a submission, but I would think that submission wrestling would have a higher chance of injury and escalating. What do you think?

I feel like this whole thing is still a long shot and may never actually happen. I am not putting any pressure on her, and she knows I love her no matter what. I think I forgot to mention that she is actually my Fiance not my GF, still have not gotten used to calling her that. We have been together for five years now.

If ever this goes down I will use all my powers of persuasion to let me take picture or record and I will certainly share with everyone here what happens. Thanks guys for all the advice!!! Keep it coming, and I will let you know how the situation progresses. 

[Ringfun1]

Hi

A few coments

She has to want to do it- wrestlign hurts abit whatever the style and there is always the chance of an injury due to turning ankles , falling awkwardly etc., as other have mentioned

The online cautions are right,I ahve wrestled for a good few years and in that time met onlya very few people on line who are genuine and who didnt live 5000 miles away.

I would also suggest that she does the settign up- I hate to say it but a woman who cannot deal with that isnt likely to deal with the reality of a fight although i doa cceptt hat involvement of hubby/bf can be supportive but it should be that supportive.

I wish you both lots of luck brcause its great if it works , and yes pins are not a satisfactory way to decide a competitive fight so submissions are best even if they can sound scary.

A mach with an experienced woman is a good idea despite the seemign mismatch-two rookies do not know how far to go or where to stop, an experienced  opponent can help avoid an injury to body or pride.

MarieD

[dfoulup]

Check out http://www.homemadecatfightsdls.com/ - in many of the descriptions he says the fight was stopped due to injury and re-started a couple weeks later.  He also has photos of some of the damage that happens in a fight.  Just so you know, it's not just rolling around.

[Roco]

@ Ringfun, I also thought that going with a professional could be safer. It was mentioned that most session wrestlers only do private sessions wrestling guys, do you agree with this? know any in SoCal that do girl sessions and let a guy watch?

@dfoulup I am aware of homemadecatfights, it was mentioned that this is a private wrestling match not a catfight and definitely not a NHB slug fest like they do on homemadecatfights. Thanks for looking out though.