Ah, Mauler Maureen, that works both ways. Before I found my Right One (37 years and counting) I knew some babes who thought that laying there naked was all they had to do; I should be eternally grateful they let me in their presence, let alone their bodies. About "fit" and "how to use it"? The second one matters. I found out that a basic principle of life, not just love or sex, is: It's not what ya got, it's what ya do wit' what ya got. My equipment ain't all that much, but she's still happy with me after all these years.
Actually, in my original response, I was talking about generic male fantasies from my misspent youth. Now, if some bitch were to challenge my woman, I would make it plain that she's mine and you're not, period the end. If you hurt her, I'm calling the cops.
So why am I posting on this topic, or this website for that matter? Dunno, I've never claimed to be consistent or logical.