[mrbrent]

OK, I'm a single male, etc. etc.

To what extent should one take into account the wrestling/catfight fetish as far as meeting/partnering up with new people? I've always kept it a secret. Have I been doing it wrong?

Just trying to spark a conversation.

[al2468]

you should be able to determine if a woman is into or willing to  catfight after a couple of dates with simple, "innocent " questions in response to her normal conversation.  another method is to watch a movie with her where a catfight occurs.  view her reaction,  ask her if she was ever in a fight, what would make her fight another woman, did she ever participate in mudwrestling, oil wrestling when she was in highschool or college.  you should get a pretty good idea.  where you go from there it is up to you, and of course her. you might be surprised.  I have found that many woman like to talk about what they would do to another woman in a catfight even if they are reluctant to act upon it IRL.

[sinclairfan]

OK, I'm a single male, etc. etc.

To what extent should one take into account the wrestling/catfight fetish as far as meeting/partnering up with new people? I've always kept it a secret. Have I been doing it wrong?

Just trying to spark a conversation.

She'll figure it out eventually, especially if she's not into it.  Just tell her.

[colt 45]

Use your best judement. Dated a lady for a long time who was ok with my fighting female situation.  Only one of several. On e thought it funny, My wife thinks it's perverted.  They WILL fing out though some might as well come clean and save yourself a lot of time and trouble down the road.

[GrasslandProductions]

Be up front.

[mrbrent]

Thank you for all of your feedback, but what I mean to ask, I guess, is, should I just come out? Say, this is my deal, this is thing that ain't going away?

Bigger, related question: can we be open about this or is it still a dirty secret?

[al2468]

if it is that big of a deal, than I guess you need to be up front and tell her right away.  probably a deal breaker, but you never know, and your being true to yourself.  good luck.

[sinclairfan]

if it is that big of a deal, than I guess you need to be up front and tell her right away.  probably a deal breaker, but you never know, and your being true to yourself.  good luck.

A deal breaker less often than you would expect.  Speaking from experience.

[MaskedBunny]

Like other people have said, it's better to be honest and be up front. If you aren't, it'll raise a lot of questions later. Now I'm not saying, first date to tell her, but once you've been together for a while, it's time to tell her. The best way would be when you're comfortable, to ask if she has anything that excites her and relate it to that. Or talk about sex and mention that you're into this. Tell her that it's been a part of your life for awhile. If she's curious, offer to show her some videos, but I wouldn't start with Ultimate Surrender or something. Start small, show her the athleticism. Like DWW or IFW. Tell her what you like about it. Then progress and explain. Be open and honest.

If you aren't, when you get serious, she'll wonder where the money is going and she'll know you're hiding something and may think it's an affair or something. She may surprise you. And if she doesn't like it, if she's the one, she'll still love you. Who knows, you might even stop watching it for her. But honesty is ALWAYS the best policy for this stuff.

[mrbrent]

Again, great feedback. But now that I've had time to think on it, I guess what spurred this was: where did the shame come from all those years? Is it just an accident of when I was born, when pretty much every fetish and paraphilia was considered a disorder, or worse, a perversion? I mean, sitting here now, I'm happy to be the "pervert" ha ha. But maybe some day?

[MaskedBunny]

I think the problem is, before the Internet, sexual stuff wasn't talked about. Porn was looked at as a thing for people who couldn't get a mate or sick people who had issues. It was disgusting and started with the stereotype fat nerd in the basement. But as the Internet spread, it became easier to obtain it and it was discovered that not only creepy people look at porn. We started our lives in that shift, when I was younger it was 'porn and masturbation is disgusting' but as I grew older it became 'who doesn't look at porn?!?' Back in the older days what we watch was definitely a niche. I dunno how it even came about 'at what point did someone say 'I wanna see two topless/naked/half clad women wrestle?' Or who thought of catfights. How did the people meet? But somehow it started and grew. It's actually pretty big from what I hear, ET did a story on Carolina catfights I think and so did rolling stone mag. But the difference is, while mainstream porn is accepted, it's shameful because it's different. Big difference between 'I watch porn' and 'I watch two ladies wrestle/catfight/whatever' each other. Because then it becomes 'do you like seeing women in pain? Do you want to see me in pain?' So it's harder to explain 'no it's sexy because of competition and the sex appeal and strong women!' Also it's scary because while 'yeah jimmy watches porn' is ok, it's scary to say 'it's me who watches.' Different women react different. My wife was curious and watched some stuff with and without me and asked a lot of questions. I was open but I go 'do you compare me to them?' 'Am I good enough' and stuff. I assured her the reason Im into this is because I got into it when I was 12, it was part of my life for 14 years and it's different and harder to explain, but that I loved her and the women who wrestle don't compare to her.

[biff]

Honesty is great ; but , you must be prepared for many , many NO'S and more ! Although ; you might be lucky like some of the few men that introduce their lady to catfighting and behold they like and join fcf . However ; the wonderful , terrific women of fcf are in the minority . Really wish such was not the case .

[colt 45]

You Bet, Bif.  Usually NOT the case.  Wife thinks it's perverted I like this but what can I say. Just don't bring it up or indulge when she's around.  Still rough.  Always used against you as well.

[Sandman13]

I've had varied results telling girlfriends and the one wife about it. Some think it's cool and indulge me with stories (no, no one ever even suggested a IRL fight) but others are uncomfortable with it. I even had one woman on a porn phone line tell me it was sick and perverted! Ha!
 I do agree that you have to confess it sooner or later and sooner is probably better. If you can talk about it and explain it, at least so some degree, your partner can understand and if she doesn't accept it, at least she will probably tolerate it. At least that's my opinion. Your mileage may vary.

[sinclairfan]

I've had varied results telling girlfriends and the one wife about it. Some think it's cool and indulge me with stories (no, no one ever even suggested a IRL fight) but others are uncomfortable with it. I even had one woman on a porn phone line tell me it was sick and perverted! Ha!
 I do agree that you have to confess it sooner or later and sooner is probably better. If you can talk about it and explain it, at least so some degree, your partner can understand and if she doesn't accept it, at least she will probably tolerate it. At least that's my opinion. Your mileage may vary.

I had 2 phone line girls tell me they were "into it";  1 wanted to fight a girl from her past, the other wanted to fight a girl of my choosing.