[colt 45]

Lumberjack hit it on the head, My wife found out before we were married and told me immediately NO.  NO only NO but HELL no.  She could never do that. Ok I knew going in, still we have now got to the "It's perverted".  I can't change the things that excite me and I have done everything I can to please her but this is not going to change and it does affect other facets of the relationship.  I can't say being called a pervert by the one you love is a good thing or knowing this is between us but I love her and as Barb said years ago, you will change the relationship or live with it.  So I live in this world in secret and hope.  I used to put her in the fantasy but now I can't even do that so....
  Good thread Maureen.

[mauler maureen]

Lumberjack hit it on the head, My wife found out before we were married and told me immediately NO.  NO only NO but HELL no.  She could never do that. Ok I knew going in, still we have now got to the "It's perverted".  I can't change the things that excite me and I have done everything I can to please her but this is not going to change and it does affect other facets of the relationship.  I can't say being called a pervert by the one you love is a good thing or knowing this is between us but I love her and as Barb said years ago, you will change the relationship or live with it.  So I live in this world in secret and hope.  I used to put her in the fantasy but now I can't even do that so....
  Good thread Maureen.

Colt, don't give up on her. As she gets older, her feelings may change. I know that being called a pervert by your own wife has to be humiliating, but shame on your wife for making you feel that way. Too bad you can't expose her to FCF.com so she can see for herself how many "normal" men are obsessed with catfights.

I have heard of marriage counselors who recommend that both partners admit their fetishes and fantasies to one another, and that to keep the marriage fires burning, take part in the dreams of your spouse. 

[LUCKYODAY9]

Lumberjack hit it on the head, My wife found out before we were married and told me immediately NO.  NO only NO but HELL no.  She could never do that. Ok I knew going in, still we have now got to the "It's perverted".  I can't change the things that excite me and I have done everything I can to please her but this is not going to change and it does affect other facets of the relationship.  I can't say being called a pervert by the one you love is a good thing or knowing this is between us but I love her and as Barb said years ago, you will change the relationship or live with it.  So I live in this world in secret and hope.  I used to put her in the fantasy but now I can't even do that so....
  Good thread Maureen.

Colt, don't give up on her. As she gets older, her feelings may change. I know that being called a pervert by your own wife has to be humiliating, but shame on your wife for making you feel that way. Too bad you can't expose her to FCF.com so she can see for herself how many "normal" men are obsessed with catfights.

I have heard of marriage counselors who recommend that both partners admit their fetishes and fantasies to one another, and that to keep the marriage fires burning, take part in the dreams of your spouse. 

All I can tell you is that this piece of advise has worked for my marriage.

[colt 45]

Thanks Maureen and Lucky. I try but she is very prudish and as she has gotten older it's increased.  but that's life.

[lumberjack66]

Colt, I understand exactly how women twist this around to the "your a pervert" angle.  The point is this is a 100% normal sexual interest.  Just look at the media.  You don't see catfights on TV, in the movies, in Soap operas, on magazine covers at the checkout stand because there is a tiny percentage of the population who are attracted to them.  I am sure for the majority of men this is not their "thing" but 90%+ are turned on by them.  And if you look at the media, much of the areas there are catfights are female media.  Chick Flicks.  Soap Operas.  Celebrity Gossip magazines.  I am not sure why, but most women appear to find the idea of women fighting more exciting than most guys do.  The point is, there is nothing to be ashamed of, and you really shouldn't let her shame you.  Just say "Your right... I am a pervert... me and 90% of the rest of the straight male population" and let it drop.

To ThirstyBeerMonsters point, as much as it hurts me to say it, he may have a point.  Our women's reluctance to do it may be related to how into us they are.  They have to value something to be willing to fight over it, right?  But I suspect it has far more to do with the women than it has to do with us.  As I said, it is such an extraordinarily low threshold.  Whisper something provocative in your man's ear.  Tell him a sexy story.  You know his hot button.  Why the heck wouldn't you push it?  That doesn't mean your wife has to fight to prove she loves you.  Again for most of us, just incorporating it into fantasy would be enough and 90% of women won't even do that.  Most women have a reaction similar to Colt's and mine.  I have been married 25+ years.  She has done much crazier things in those 25 years than tell me a sexy story.  I have to believe most of our wives are into us at least enough to want to turn us on.  And I can't believe most of them want us to fantasize about other women doing something that drives us wild.  What TBM is saying may certainly apply to a short term girlfriend, a hookup in a bar, or a wild fling.  But I am guessing it really doesn't apply to most of our wives.  Maybe it does, but these women have invested years of their lives into us.  I gotta believe they are into us at least a little bit.  Right?

[mauler maureen]

Well stated, Jack.

[derek50]

I'm sure this question has been asked before. Why do so many husbands get a thrill out of seeing their wives fighting? After all, this is the woman they married, the mother of their children.
Why do men crave the thought of pitting their wife against another woman ? Curious to find out what your feedback is. 

Maureen, in response to the initial question you posed (quoted above), I will share some personal observations. As a romantic, I find that part of the thrill of watching females fight is the fantasy that they are fighting over me - perhaps egotistical, but consistent with the primal mating reaction by other males and females watching the quest for dominance by rivals of the opposite sex. When one of the females is a spouse (or in my experience young women I have dated), that confrontation becomes more personal and heightens the electricity. While this arousal is most acute when my date was challenged by a rival for my affection, it has also been extremely stimulating to watch my dates in a physical confrontation with another female to settle matters that do not involve me. In each of these situation, I found myself strongly sexually attracted to the dominant female whether it was my date or the other woman, regardless of their physical appearance.

[Katie0]

I suspect men like to watch women fight for the same reason we like to watch men fight.  It's primal and sexy.  Ever been to a pro or golden gloves boxing match?  The women are the most excited spectators.  Same for men's mma.  Women love it.  I'm sure men think the same thing about women's combat.  Throw in the spousal involvement and it is over the top.  My man can whip your man and he CHOSE me!  For the men, it's the reverse - my wife is better than yours and is going home with me tonight.

[Corbin2012]

I suspect men like to watch women fight for the same reason we like to watch men fight.  It's primal and sexy.  Ever been to a pro or golden gloves boxing match?  The women are the most excited spectators.  Same for men's mma.  Women love it.  I'm sure men think the same thing about women's combat.  Throw in the spousal involvement and it is over the top.  My man can whip your man and he CHOSE me!  For the men, it's the reverse - my wife is better than yours and is going home with me tonight.
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U R right. I find it extremly intriguing and arousing to see women watching two guys fighting. concerning the circumstances..the more private the better. Thats why I like couples fighting

[colt 45]

Jack I have to agree.  I think that in my case, as that's all I can comment on, I have had this fetish for more years than I have been married and it's not going away.  I just compartmentalize it and go on.  Still, sometimes one needs others to at least commiserate with for a little pick me up. 
This forum is mine.  Thanks.

[sexywiveswrestling]

Great question, Maureen.

My wife has had many pre-arranged matches with a few other wives over the past 10 years. It took a year or so after I first told her I would love to see her wrestle with another woman before she actually gave it a try.

But I did not ask her to "fight" with another woman- that is not something I would want to see any women do, much less my wife. I really don't consider a pre-arranged wrestling match with rules to be the same thing as a fight.

It took me several years to work up the nerve to reveal to her that I would love to see her wrestle, but I am so glad I did, because I have been treated to many wonderful matches. I just think that watching two women who are close in age and size compete with one another in a real and genuine, yet safe match, to be the sexiest thing ever. And when one of them is your wife, and she is doing it for you, it is off the charts amazing.

Funny thing is, if you knew my wife, you would think she would be the last person to ever try this. Petite, beautiful, sweet as can be, and not an enemy in the world, and she did it- many times! And, amazingly, she has said that she is so glad she did it and says it has been really sexy and fun to do. Of course, doing this with the right couples who are looking for the same things is a huge part in making this a positive experience for all.

My wife has become great friends with the other wives she has wrestled. It never ceases to amaze me how they can be best of friends before and after a match, yet truly compete and do the best they can to win during the match. Breathtakingly beautiful to say the least!

Submission wrestling, sane rules catfights, and even some sexy oil wrestling....I have seen it all, and wouldn't trade it for anything. Real, competitive, safe, sane rules matches for my wife- yes! Fights? No way. There is a big difference!

[mvmfvfirl]

I was married to an young lady several years ago that refused to even talk about my fantasy.i got a divorce after 8 years of marriage.she had told me I was weird and called me a lot of other things to lol.after my divorce I tried several women over 5 years all with the same result.i finally met my present wife who has catfought irl for me and it takes a special woman to do this. have been married 27yrs.and are both happy.most women wont do this without getting something in return .some want monetary compensation some use it to control there husbands.with my wife it made our sex way better lol. she seemed to enjoy it.she didn't like the other wives that expected some type of payment from there husbands.

[DaveyG_uk]

my ex did 16 sub wrestles for me against other women..... great memories!!

[thirstybeermonster]

@ CFsupporter,in my completely biased opinion as a catfight fan I feel next time you see her you should just come out and say, "look we both know we don't like each other, let's just settle this woman to woman"  

[CA Aptwrestling2345]

I won't be surprised if the rules include Hairpulling, Slapping, Punching, tit grabbing/mauling, biting but who know besides Karen and Tara.