I've been on and off this board for nearly a decade now and finally decided to create an account and share my story. I've seen several threads on this topic but I wasn't sure which one to dig up, so here's a new one.
To be honest, I can recall having an interest in catfights since my preschool days as weird as that may sound, but it never really "clicked" as a fetish for me until later on. I've never told anyone about this, until now and here's what has come of it so far...
During my college years I met a girl who is now my wife. Early on when we were dating she found a few websites I was looking at. Of course this was the one time I forgot to clear my history! She thought it was weird and I thought I had lost her. But fortunately, I was able to talk her down by telling her I was exploring different fetishes and stumbled upon catfighting (lies of course). She was able to live with it but never approved of it, and we moved on. It was rarely brought up again and I feared telling her would drive her away or make her think differently of me.
Fast forward and finally, after a decade of downloading clips, sponsoring numerous customs, experiencing several near misses with my wife (I see there's a thread for this), and even getting my wife (just girlfriend at the time) to wrestle one of her friends AND arm wrestle her other friend, who I was seeing before my now wife (my wife is still a little jealous of her), I figured it was time to get over my fear of her rejecting me and tell her how I really felt about catfights (BTW I was able to capture the wrestling match and the arm wrestling match on video!). Throughout our years together I had become quite skilled at having lucid dreams (when you know you're dreaming and you can control it)...what do you think I did with this? ;-)
I couldn't just tell her at any random moment since I wanted her to be more understanding so I waited for the right time and when she was in the right mindset. I started by telling her about a dream I had where she fought an ex of mine. She chuckled and didn't say much; in my mind I took that as a win! A few days later we were going on a trip. I travel extensively for work and every time I get on a plane I send my wife a message along the lines of, "I've boarded, taking off soon". So while my wife and I were flying to the Caribbean for a wedding I decided to use this line again, even though she was sitting right next to me. Except after the "taking off soon" line I told her there was this hot woman sitting next to me and I think she's eyeing me down. Of course this leads to a little playful messaging back and forth and she plays along. There were a few statements such as, "tell her she better back off or I'm going to kick her ass" and "that's a fight you'd like to see, have any oil?". Naturally I told her she was working me up and better tone it down. Once we got to our destination I decided to confess all to her. After a few drinks to block all inhibitions I told her...
To my surprise her reaction was not what I expected. She was calm and said that it's natural for guys to like girl on girl action. I tried telling her I was different, but it didn't phase her at all. She even stated that I wasn't weird for having that fetish! Man what a woman! Throughout the entire trip we talked about it more and more. She enjoyed getting a rise out of me by just talking about it. I began telling her about some of the dreams I've had and we'd talk about them. There were some she lost and some she won, but she insisted she always won.
We talked about setting up a match, but she's still unsure about using something like craigslist. She did, however, say that she gets to pick and not me because she didn't want me being turned on by the other girl. I asked her if I would see her wrestle someone on my birthday for fun...and she said "maybe, we'll see". I'd never want to see her get hurt so a little competitive wrestling will do it for me!
I honestly feel a weight being lifted off my shoulders by not holding this secret from her anymore. It's great that she's open to talking to me about things, and even playing along. Part of me thinks I did the right thing to wait, build trust, and then tell her after all these years. She still has reservations with talking about her and other girls we know going at it, but I tell her it's to add realism to my fantasies. There are a few girls she's already said she'd never wrestle because of my history with them, but that's fine by me as long as she's still willing to just talk about it; the way I see it is we're only in our late 20's so there will be plenty of other girls who will come along the way for her to match up against. To me it wasn't only about finding the right girl, but also presenting it in a way that helps her understand and still love me for it. Of course, it tremendously helped that I asked her about any odd fetishes she has so we could have an open dialogue. I won't be spilling the beans on this one, but it's definitely something I can work it!
The next thing on my list is to introduce her to this site...we'll see how that goes. Hoping to share some of her encounters on here eventually. It's been great to see this board grow. Feel free to comment or criticize! Side note: this was written on my phone so please excuse any typos.
