Without wishing to ignite a conflict, my observation is, that I'm not just civil with others, because mutually assured survival is common is small groups, but also because I don't pick and choose when an activity is offered freely, and when not. I'd lie if I said, in my teenage years and twenties I wasn't way more focused on getting my "fetish fix" than care about the people providing it, that changed with plenty others. I don't believe in a system, where one gender is by some decree is entitled to more things, which throw supply and demand out of the window. Either if they're just members here or performers in videos, women don't exist to satiate needs without compensation, and courtesy as that would be slavery. I can't be casual about a brutal violation, not because I weren't flawed, rather that I've experienced wherever I went, women have a hard time opening up to someone they don't know, including other women, but also men. Humans are biological, so even if there's no planned, in the heat something can be said that cannot be taken back, that makes one of them regret ever being forthcoming.
The "outtakes" from RPG sessions are in part based in real life, so, yes, I've met people like that. Actually it's true for the fetish world as well (because my impression is that people are casual about racial bigotry too), that letting a subculture mix with others hugely helps not just understanding others, but knowing facts, instead of lore. Every community is part of a social hierarchy, so in contrast with the PR that bookworm nerds all hate jocks because they share a commonality of being bullied goes out the window when one takes into account how a (sociologically speaking) orphaned community has a feeble response on violence, going further in the belief that helps ensure domain. Or, if I were Hellboy, I could have just said they're assholes.
So, cyber is made interesting by virtue of their participants and the baggage they carry. For me the breaking point is the realization which community one belongs to. I just "love it" when some claim, being a catfight fan is not niche, 'cause look, they made great taste, less filling. Sure, if you commically miss the point that it's a don't ask, don't tell advertisement. I might be a straight white dude, but it is niche as people still fear what they don't understand. Thus, in my experience, some treat this niche but a mere extension and act accordingly, meaning if they're otherwise genuinely confrontational (like my ex), the cyber will also be a quick slugfest. Personally I don't think two such mismatching combatants would agree to fight by way of a neutral system.