[JT Edson]

I have a couple of acquaintances that spend time in the Philippines (work, vacation, etc.). They seem to really enjoy dating the women their. They have both told me Philippina women are possessive and very jealous (especially when it comes to other Philipina women) over them. One guy even told me his girl's sister was hitting on him and the sister's got into a catfight over him. He says he was surprised at how vicious they got with each other.

I am wondering if he was telling me what I wanted to hear or if it was true.

Can anyone shed any light on this or maybe share some of their experiences in the Philippines?

Both guys seem sincere about Philippina women fighting at the drop of a hat especially over a man (foreigners in particular).

[TheRef]

Maybe I'm qualified to respond? I've been to the Philippines many times for work, vacation and family reasons. Work was because I spent much of my military career in the Orient. Vacation because I love the PI. Family because I've been married to a Filipina for 30 years and her family lives there. My brother is also married to one. At my unit in Japan, the Philippine wives alone outnumbered the American wives. That doesn't even count the Korean, Thai, Vietnamese and Japanese wives. Anyway, back to the subject.

Yes. They are extremely possessive and quick to get jealous. I think this is more a result of 350 years of Spanish culture more than being Asian. They tend to be very passionate and emotional. That can be either good or bad but you do have to learn to handle it. There is zero social taboo on females fighting there and it is quite common.

If you can get Philippine television via your cable, satellite, etc. you can subscribe and see for yourself that they are a common staple of entertainment, especially on the soap operas. Those series are pretty much guaranteed to have a couple of fights per month at minimum. My wife was watching one last night where the women were fighting in a swimming pool because one was flirting with the other's man. She called me to come watch (that's my girl!). Yeah, they are obviously scripted but the women are (literally) movie star beautiful so that's fine with me.

Last year 2 of my wife's friends got into fights. One was over "chismis" which is gossip while the other was more interesting to me. The Filipina suspected her husband was cheating on her and followed him. She caught him with his Filipina mistress in the parking lot of the local Sam's Club and they fought it out. The husband just stood there and watched them fighting on the ground between the cars until an employee broke it up. The police showed up and everyone got handcuffed but in the end all were released since no one pressed charges. I didn't see it of course but my wife told me all about it once she stopped laughing. Apparently the suspicious wife was filming it for evidence up until the fight started. Then she dropped the phone but you can still hear them fighting and cursing each other. I haven't watched it but my wife has. The woman played it for her over Starbucks and they had a good time discussing.

To summarize, they absolutely have no problem with throwing down.

[JT Edson]

TheRef,

Thanks for your response and insight. I think you've given me a better perspective. Man, I got to say, it would be hot to see two of those cute little fire crackers going at it over me. I think it would get down to serious business pretty quickly!

I would be more interested in knowing how the Spanish influence comes into play (although I think I understand from a historic point of view.). Has your wife ever fought over you? If so, how did you handle it?

If anyone else would like to chime in on any of this, please do so.

Thanks again TheRef for the info.

[TheRef]

She has not fought over me but that's probably because I love her and don't want to give her reason to be jealous. She was in several fights as a young girl though. Mostly teenage school rivalry stuff but not since we have been together. She and her enemy of the moment would meet after school across the street in a park so as not to get in trouble on campus. They would slap, pull lots of hair and rip blouses. She often got in trouble with her mom for torn school uniforms that needed repairs. If she thought she might fight that day she would wear gym shorts under her uniform skirt and put her hair up on the way across to the battleground.

In the fantasy world I agree that it would indeed be hot to have 2 sexy women literally fighting over me and I imagine that often enough. I live in the real world though and in this world "serious business" can mean things like knives, bottles, chains and other real world implements of vengeance. And that's just in America. In the P.I. it's entirely possible to have someone killed for the cost of a weekend getaway in the states.

Don't forget the families also. Cuyas and Ates (older siblings), cousins, etc will certainly take offense as well. Best to stick to the bar scene since those girls are often runaways for various reasons that don't have nearby family determined to jump into any dispute. It truly can become a mess quickly so be (very) careful what you wish for in the real world!

[JT Edson]

She has not fought over me but that's probably because I love her and don't want to give her reason to be jealous. She was in several fights as a young girl though. Mostly teenage school rivalry stuff but not since we have been together. She and her enemy of the moment would meet after school across the street in a park so as not to get in trouble on campus. They would slap, pull lots of hair and rip blouses. She often got in trouble with her mom for torn school uniforms that needed repairs. If she thought she might fight that day she would wear gym shorts under her uniform skirt and put her hair up on the way across to the battleground.

In the fantasy world I agree that it would indeed be hot to have 2 sexy women literally fighting over me and I imagine that often enough. I live in the real world though and in this world "serious business" can mean things like knives, bottles, chains and other real world implements of vengeance. And that's just in America. In the P.I. it's entirely possible to have someone killed for the cost of a weekend getaway in the states.

Don't forget the families also. Cuyas and Ates (older siblings), cousins, etc will certainly take offense as well. Best to stick to the bar scene since those girls are often runaways for various reasons that don't have nearby family determined to jump into any dispute. It truly can become a mess quickly so be (very) careful what you wish for in the real world!

Your right. Fantasy is one thing, reality can be something very different.  Good advice.

[nonothing33]

I have a couple of acquaintances that spend time in the Philippines (work, vacation, etc.). They seem to really enjoy dating the women their. They have both told me Philippina women are possessive and very jealous (especially when it comes to other Philipina women) over them. One guy even told me his girl's sister was hitting on him and the sister's got into a catfight over him. He says he was surprised at how vicious they got with each other.

I am wondering if he was telling me what I wanted to hear or if it was true.

Can anyone shed any light on this or maybe share some of their experiences in the Philippines?

Both guys seem sincere about Philippina women fighting at the drop of a hat especially over a man (foreigners in particular).

I worked with Philippine women and they are jealous of each other. One Philippine woman I worked with couldn't stand other Philippine women in the same workplace! Constantly talking down about them. I was always surprised thinking something would happen physically one day after work at happy hour.

[JT Edson]

Thanks for sharing. Did they ever argue in the office?

[nonothing33]

Thanks for sharing. Did they ever argue in the office?

Mostly behind backs, but I heard after I left at a happy hour one of them got drunk and went off on the other.

[selcaro]

Awesome thread. My ex-wife was three quarters Philipina, with one German grand parent. She was amazingly attractive, tall, green eyed, beautiful face. And she was catty with other women, especially if they were attractive. She never was in an actual fight but she loved to talk about the close calls she had. She thought she was tough but she would have had some serious problems in a fight because she got super submissive if her hair was pulled even lightly. I know this from some light wrestling we did. She actually didn't like the wrestling because she was dominant by nature and even lightly leaning on her hair made her quit. In a real fight she would have tapped out the minute her hair was pulled. My ultimate fantasy is still her being submissive to a woman who is pulling her hair. Telling the other woman she taps out and begging her to not pull her hair out.

[DottiD]

I asked my husband about this since he served in the Marines, after boot camp he was stationed there a bit, it didn’t involve him directly but, he and few of his buddies had a weekend off, they went to off base bar, shorter version, one of the buddies was buying a Philly ( their term not mine) drinks apparently the girl saw dollar signs , I am guessing the dollar then had a bigger allure then some other years, anyway she went to the ladies room and a different girl was on him in a flash, he bought her a drink when the first came over they were screaming in their native language when the first dug her nails in the seconds face and it was on, it had no definitive end but he said as the MPs and Shore patrol ran in so did the local police and broke it up the first girl was still on top and was clawing the second one up bad, the second woman dished some claw marks as well and both their dress tops were torn free . The Philippine women as I understand it are tribe based to this day and some of them hate each other with centuries of passion, so if true the American male was the perfect spark to fuel the fire, coupled with the hope of getting out of there to America.

[selcaro]

I asked my husband about this since he served in the Marines, after boot camp he was stationed there a bit, it didn’t involve him directly but, he and few of his buddies had a weekend off, they went to off base bar, shorter version, one of the buddies was buying a Philly ( their term not mine) drinks apparently the girl saw dollar signs , I am guessing the dollar then had a bigger allure then some other years, anyway she went to the ladies room and a different girl was on him in a flash, he bought her a drink when the first came over they were screaming in their native language when the first dug her nails in the seconds face and it was on ...

My philina ex wife hand amazing hands and nails. She mentioned scratching a rivals eyes out on a number of ocassions. Nails were important to her. Such a turn on to hear her talk like that.

[pythonlegs]

I have just a tidbit of second hand information to contribute. 

I have a Thai female friend that once told me that ALL Philippine women are whores.  I didn't put much stock in that at the time (this was a long time ago), but if I wanted some catfight action IRL, I might investigate the Philippine phenomenon. 

[JT Edson]

Thank you all for sharing.  Having two Philippines women catfight over me is becoming a great fantasy!
If anyone else has anything to share, please do.

[TheRef]

I have a Thai female friend that once told me that ALL Philippine women are whores. 

A Thai woman calling all Filipinas whores? Now THAT is the funniest thing I've heard this year! Thailand is still the world's leading sex tourism country.

Seriously though, if you only hang out around the bar district in any country you could get the impression all the women are terrible but that's on you. Try asking the locals what they think of the swarms of guys who fly across the world to try and get laid by throwing money around. Locals think they are sad and disgusting degenerates who deserve to get ripped off. It works both ways.

[TheRef]

I asked my husband about this since he served in the Marines, after boot camp he was stationed there a bit, it didn’t involve him directly but, he and few of his buddies had a weekend off, they went to off base bar, shorter version, one of the buddies was buying a Philly ( their term not mine) drinks apparently the girl saw dollar signs , I am guessing the dollar then had a bigger allure then some other years, anyway she went to the ladies room and a different girl was on him in a flash, he bought her a drink when the first came over they were screaming in their native language when the first dug her nails in the seconds face and it was on, it had no definitive end but he said as the MPs and Shore patrol ran in so did the local police and broke it up the first girl was still on top and was clawing the second one up bad, the second woman dished some claw marks as well and both their dress tops were torn free . The Philippine women as I understand it are tribe based to this day and some of them hate each other with centuries of passion, so if true the American male was the perfect spark to fuel the fire, coupled with the hope of getting out of there to America.

Customer = money

I've had the same thing happen to me in Korea. A group of us were out "on the town" and I was a customer of one of the dancers. While she was away another bar girl slipped in and tried to get a drink from me. The first girl came back and bashed her in the head with an ashtray a couple of times.

A cardinal rule of Asian juicy bars is that you don't poach another girl's customer! If you prefer one girl then don't let a different one sit with you and definitely don't buy her any drinks or you will become off limits to the other girls in that bar.

Of course, if you actually want to see a catfight you can pick out 2  girls and spend money on them individually. Preferably on different days. There will eventually be a fight. Making sure you are there to watch it is the tricky part.