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General Discussion / Re: Writing Styles: The How and Why of Women Fighting
« Last post by Kiva on Today at 11:16:03 AM »Thank you, @sinclairfan. All really good ideas. I especially like the “work wife/home wife” and the traveling sports team couple. You touched on the concept of “emotional cheating.”
Which situation do you think is more hurtful to a married woman?
A. Her husband has a one night fling with a woman he met while out of town and will never see again.
B. Her husband strikes up a friendship with a woman. They frequently text and speak by phone. They share a lot of personal information including his deepest fears and dreams and private matters he’s never told his wife. The relationship is not sexually consummated.
Most women would say B is more hurtful as it is a betrayal of intimacy which is worse than a purely sexual encounter.
I suspect most of us who are married have had experiences when we gave TMI to a friend of the opposite gender, then said to ourselves, “Did I just cheat?” The question is where should the line be drawn? These do have great potential for stories.
I guess my problem with wife vs mistress stories is that most of them are so unimaginative with the mistresses portrayed as nutcases who say things like “I will win your man’s cock and prove I have the superior pussy,” obviously written by men.
The reality is far different. The mistress usually thinks she is the rightful soulmate and the man’s (or hers) marriage was a bad decision that needs to be remedied. She realizes the wife will be hurt, but thinks in the end, everyone will be better off. Often, she is a victim of the man’s lies and is being emotionally manipulated.
I might enjoy a love triangle story if the characters and plot are interesting and have some substance to them. I thought Phoenix_Falcone did a nice different take on an affair with “Room 2012”.
So who knows? Maybe fictional Kiva from KFJ will have an affair with a married man.
Which situation do you think is more hurtful to a married woman?
A. Her husband has a one night fling with a woman he met while out of town and will never see again.
B. Her husband strikes up a friendship with a woman. They frequently text and speak by phone. They share a lot of personal information including his deepest fears and dreams and private matters he’s never told his wife. The relationship is not sexually consummated.
Most women would say B is more hurtful as it is a betrayal of intimacy which is worse than a purely sexual encounter.
I suspect most of us who are married have had experiences when we gave TMI to a friend of the opposite gender, then said to ourselves, “Did I just cheat?” The question is where should the line be drawn? These do have great potential for stories.
I guess my problem with wife vs mistress stories is that most of them are so unimaginative with the mistresses portrayed as nutcases who say things like “I will win your man’s cock and prove I have the superior pussy,” obviously written by men.
The reality is far different. The mistress usually thinks she is the rightful soulmate and the man’s (or hers) marriage was a bad decision that needs to be remedied. She realizes the wife will be hurt, but thinks in the end, everyone will be better off. Often, she is a victim of the man’s lies and is being emotionally manipulated.
I might enjoy a love triangle story if the characters and plot are interesting and have some substance to them. I thought Phoenix_Falcone did a nice different take on an affair with “Room 2012”.
So who knows? Maybe fictional Kiva from KFJ will have an affair with a married man.
