[npom]

I've always been curious as to why I have my particular desire. Since my teens (long time ago!) one of my biggest turn ons has been the thought of my best friend's mom wrestling and being dominated by another woman in an extremely one sided match. I use to struggle with this because she has always been one of the sweetest people you'd ever want to meet. In real life I would never want to happen to her what I fantasize about. Just curious on if anyone has any theories on this desire or if you have something you struggle with also when it comes to these types of fantasies.

[Jane]

I've always been curious as to why I have my particular desire. Since my teens (long time ago!) one of my biggest turn ons has been the thought of my best friend's mom wrestling and being dominated by another woman in an extremely one sided match. I use to struggle with this because she has always been one of the sweetest people you'd ever want to meet. In real life I would never want to happen to her what I fantasize about. Just curious on if anyone has any theories on this desire or if you have something you struggle with also when it comes to these types of fantasies.

Warm feelings for someone are often enhanced by the idea of them suffering. Perhaps at some level this appeals to your protective instincts. A lot of guys on here fantasise about their wives or loved ones being beaten in a fight. That doesn't mean they actually want to see it happen, since a fantasy isn't always an aspiration. A good example is the popularity of horror films in which the beautiful girl is pursued by the evil slasher. Does this mean that everyone who enjoys these movies wants pretty girls to come to a sticky end? I'm sure a few do, but generally it's the reverse!

[cfw1]

Me one of my neighboor, I don't want she suffer but seen is trouble was too nice.
Have you ever seen pungiball girl.
Some years ago at house of my relative we are playing on card game with a lovely blond neighbor; my relative is strong and start punch the shoulder of our friend blond every time pass the cards, she is too sweet to react vigorously so She had the shoulder hurt, my relative imitated her face change.
She sometimes plays the pungiball of other females, one little female hit her head with hands and made jump her pink hairclip of her long blond hair.
She is similar to this model

[randomman]

From what I've been able to deduce, it's a subset of domination fetishes, tied to related psychologies. For some, it's about seeing someone lose (as evidenced by this thread), for others, it's about seeing someone win (as in my case). It's about which is preferred, the domination or the dominated.

Further, I posit unarmed fighting as a pseudo-sexual activity in and of itself (or a form of foreplay).  The loser is often left deflated and on their back, breathing heavily, often mimicking languid post-coital behavior. 'Knockouts' are so often used to demonstrate both the degree of dominance and add to the post-coital nature of the activity.

[sinclairfan]

If it was just the "if they're fighting, they might kiss" theory from that Seinfeld episode, then two women

> bickering on Snapchat
>or freezing each other out of party/sleepover invites or
>gossiping about each other or
>gloating over a rival's divorce or
>in a WMMA staredown with each other

wouldn't be sexy.  Be they all are.

[randomman]

If it was just the "if they're fighting, they might kiss" theory from that Seinfeld episode, then two women

> bickering on Snapchat
>or freezing each other out of party/sleepover invites or
>gossiping about each other or
>gloating over a rival's divorce or
>in a WMMA staredown with each other

wouldn't be sexy.  Be they all are.

That's where the Domination, and particularly, the struggle to establish dominance, come in. 

One thing I neglected to mention was the very nature of combat, of not knowing who will come out on top, can be a turn on.  But for many, people like jobbers, quick victories that establish who the better woman is.

For others, it's the contesting itself that is sexy. 

[Silent Watcher]

I know it's been a bit since this was originally posted but I wanted to share my point of view.
First, I don't know what's for reall the psychology behind it. I'm not a therapist and I have never opened about this fetish in therapy. So this is at best and educated guest that cames from my personal experience.

I share the view of the other users about being a clear relation between this fetish and the more geheral ones that are related to domination (either way seeing someone win or lose in our particular case). For me, what started just as curiosity for combative women started to grew into curiosity for domination kinks as I digged more and more into this curiosity.

Also I think there's a "forbidden" aspect in that I'm the last person you would think of having this kink. As the other users I don't like violence or seeing people fight outside the very stric limits of fantasy. And that separation helps to fuel the fantasy: as it's something that's not socially acepted or at least it's seen as "weird", in our private moments and in our imagination we like to escape from the chaos of daily life. Sometimes I think there's a little bit of subversion going on: most of the stories you found here have the fighting disrupting what's normal everyday life, in some cases you have stories about couples indulging in the fetish together. 

Even if it's just fantasy and we know the difference with reality some days I have been pained and confused about it. Why I do like this? It's right for me to like this, it's normal to like this? I don't really know, sometimes my mind tells me It's all right it's just fantasy and some other days I feel guilty for having this fetish.

So, to be brief, I don't really know anything apart that I got this and I think I will be confused about it for the rest of my life.